(Closed) Coming off Birth Control??

posted 8 years ago in Wellness
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Congrats for considering NFP!  (I just don’t think that gets said enough) FI & I are getting trained on charting the Billings Ovulation Method, but in practice, we’re going Sympto-Thermal, too.  First, when I got off the pill, my cramps came back (didn’t really have them on the pill), but on the plus side, natural lubrication was MUCH better & I could feel changes in my body better.  Additionally, while I neither gained nor lost any significant weight right away, I found that my metabolism (or something) was much faster…when I put in the effort to lose weight, I lost almost immediately, which wasn’t the case while on the pill. 

Second, you mentioned your fear of being fertile or on your period when your wedding comes around.  IMHO, you won’t really know until right around that time anyway, mostly because the stress of prepping for the wedding will affect your cycle.  But, by charting & taking your temp & learning the signs of your body, you’ll be aware of where you are in your cycle when your wedding rolls around.  If you DO happen to be fertile at the time of the wedding & you & your FI want to postpone pregnancy, you can always use a barrier (like a condom) for those few days (it won’t be all that long) & then eliminate the barrier when you’re past ovulation (this is what Toni Weschler, author of Taking Charge of your Fertility, the “definitive” book on Sympto-Thermal, recommends).  Hopefully your FI is open to using a barrier for those few days after your months or years of taking BCP.  If he isn’t, then maybe you should wait until after your wedding to start…whatever fits you both best. 

Good Luck with whichever you go with!  (*cheering*: Go NFP!)

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Could you wait until after your wedding to get off the pill? That way you wouldn’t have to worry about weight gain or fertility during a time that’s already going to be crazy and hectic.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Congratulations on deciding to start NFP!  My husband and I practiced the sympto-thermal method successfully for months (before our planned pregnancy), and I noticed such a difference being on a non-hormonal, natural form of bc. 

My suggestion is to go off your bc and start practicing NFP well before your wedding (4-6 months before).  You’ll need at least a few months practice with your NFP method before you’ll be able to accurately tell your fertile periods.  Also, your cycle could still be affected by the pill even a couple months after you’ve stopped taking it, so going off early will allow you more time to regulate naturally.  Plus, if you go off the pill long before your wedding, you won’t have to worry about any possible side effects. 

Good luck in starting NFP!  I hope you have a great experience with it!

Post # 7
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6010 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Stress can definitely affect your cycle.  Would you be opposed to using a barrier method, like Ms. Pascua suggested, during the honeymoon?  That way you wouldn’t have to worry about misreading your charts or if stress is affecting your fertile periods.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

Whenever you decide to go off the pill, know that the first few months of charting can be a little confusing because of the residual hormones making the temperature and mucus signs misbehave. I use STM and the first two months off of hormonal birth control my temperature stayed high for the entire cycle and it also made the mucus sign a little strange. By Month 3 my temperatures were cycling as they were supposed to and the mucus sign was quite clear. There are special rules and advice about how to do STM when you first get off the pill. Do check out Taking Charge of Your Fertility.

If you have decided to abstain from intercourse for 6 months leading up to the wedding, that’s probably the ideal time to quit taking your hormonal birth control. Trust me, it will be an extra incentive to keep your commitment, and it will allow you to get a handle on STM without worrying about possible pregnancy. Or if you wait until after the wedding, use a barrier method as backup while you’re learning. You’ll be comfortable with it sooner than you think! I felt good about it after about 3 or 4 months of charting. Now, more than a year later, I can do it with my eyes closed.

You might also want to check out the book Fertility, Cycles, and Nutrition, by Marilyn Shannon (4th edition). The book addresses how your diet and vitamins affect your menstrual cycle, with targeted suggestions for dealing with PMS, PCOS, infertility, cycle irregularities…. I have this book and have implemented some of her suggestions. They improved my energy levels a lot and made my PMS much more manageable. Going off birth control can make your skin misbehave and your emotions feel weird, but after a few months of adjustment you’ll probably feel back to your old self. Just like there’s a period of adjustment to get on birth control, there’s one to get off too. Stress can affect your cycle, so the proximity of the wedding could have an impact, so I would say start earlier rather than later. Good luck! Feel free to pm me if you have more specific questions.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I’ve heard of some different non-bc ways to alter your cycles, but I wouldn’t trust them enough even to repost them in this thread.  πŸ™‚  You can always ask your OBGYN at your next appointment, but unfortuantely a period during your wedding might just be something you would have to live with.

Post # 12
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1042 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Hmm. Well my $0.02 would be if you’re worried about getting pregnant until after your honeymoon, and you don’t want to have to worry about your period during the wedding, it really sounds like staying on the pill until after your honeymoon may be the best route to go? You wouldn’t need to use a barrier on your wedding night or during your h-moon, but you could go off the pill right after you get back from your honeymoon and go back to using barriers maybe with spermacide or something until you’re used to NFP? I don’t really mean to push the pill, but it sounds like it might be your best option because it’s going to give you everything you want for your wedding and honeymoon, and then you can worry about all the stuff afterward later.

If you do decide to switch things up before your wedding and go off the pill or use a different method, I think doing it well in advance is the best way to go. Make sure you give yourself at least 6 months, like chelseamorning said!

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Good luck, Tisty1982 !  The good news is that LOTS of people successfully use some form of NFP both to avoid conception and while trying to conceive.  Users on internet baby boards like The Bump swear by Taking Control of Your Fertility, and STM is becoming really popular becuase it’s a green, natural form of bc.  I’m sure your family will come around once they see how much happier you are are off the hormonal pill.  πŸ™‚

 On weekends, I also like to sleep in a few extra hours.  But really, if you get a digital thermometer, you hardly even have to wake-up to temp.  The alarm goes off, and without even opening my eyes, I grab the thermometer from my bedside table, put it in my mouth, and push the button.  A minute later it beeps and I take it out, write down the numbers real quick, and I’m back to sleep in no time.   Easy peasy! 

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Regarding taking your temperature on the weekends – I own a digital basal thermometer called the Petite Sophia, and it has a built-in alarm that is loud enough to wake me if I leave it on my bedside table, but not loud enough to wake DH. It goes off, I stick the thermometer in my mouth, I fall back asleep, it beeps again 5 minutes later, I take it out, and I go right back to sleep. I thought it would be a big deal but honestly it is so second nature that I barely even wake up.

The Petite Sophia is pricey but it is great because it has software that uses the same charting method to record where you are in your cycle. I use it as confirmation of what I see on my paper chart because sometimes I have a bit of trouble figuring it out entirely on my own.

Post # 16
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3587 posts
Sugar bee

I recently stopped taking the pill in October. I started when  I was 18 and I’m now 28. 10 years of BC,constantly.LOL

My first period came in November. It was a DOOZEY.Yell I had cramps, BAD cramps, I couldn’t even sleep! With BC, a cramp was like a pinch compared to these. The bleeding was MAJOR.  May be TMI,but—I swear I used ultra tampons for 2 days of  it and within 4 hours, they were full. I never knew it could be this hardcore. I didn’t remember my periods before BC, so I didn’t k now what to expect. I think I got used to the pill period.LOL

I chart right now, because I want to be ready when we do TTC. I’m not the best at it, but I’m trying.LOL

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