- 5 years ago
- Wedding: January 2013
Alright so here is my rant for the day. I get really ticked off when I come on the WB boards and people are asking for all kinds of advice and then get offended when you give advice and they are clearly looking for another answer. I have seen so many post from Bees about what do I do if I caught my Darling Husband or Fiance lying. Well you call him on that shit is what you do. You get to be a little bitchy and if its a big lie or something that effects your trust, then you sit back and and start rethinking your relationship. I hear bees say, well this is the only other issue we have and otherwise he is a great Fiance or Darling Husband, well if thats the case then why are you here except for the fact that apparently your now questioning every little thing he did.
If your not ready to hear what the bees say without getting offended then dont post and be rude.
Also sex drive questions. If your man or you have a low sex drive and either of you have a high sex drive, this isnt going to go away when you get married. So either you better get in gear or accept the fact that your man is going to watch porn, and realistically if you arent giving it to him, then he might go find it somewhere else. I know thats harsh but if a woman gets short changed on the emotional stuff its a true statement that she will find someone else to fill that void as well if they hubby doesnt come through.
So save yourself a lot of trouble in the future and work it out now before your married, and please dont say well I give it to him once a week. Most men I know and I have alot of male friends will tell you that they like sex at least three times a week. If you arent willing to bite the bullet and put out because your not in the mood, you can bet there will be someone in the wings who will put out when he gets tired of begging for sex and you keep sayin no.
If your man is caught chatting with an ex, he flirts and says sexual things to another female, I dont care if its an ego boost or whatever he wants to call it, its immature and guaranteed that he will do it again. You can bet he will just be more careful about getting caught.
Men who want to be in monogamous relationships will be in monogamous relationships and there is no force on this planet that would change that. If he is messing around texting or facebooking girls while in a relationship, he knows its wrong and he is doing it anyway because he doesnt really care about you. Its not about boundaries, every adult person on this planet knows whats acceptable in a relationship, men arent dumb, they know what they are doing, just as women do.
Next thing…dont come on here asking for advice about leaving your relationship because things are supposedly tough and then mention that a coworker/friend/acquaintance or santa claus has made a declaration of love. It shoots your credibility to hell because the rest of us are wondering if your looking for the green light to cheat or to end your relationship to start another one. You know whats right and wrong. You dont start another relationship til you finish the one your in. You work on the one you have without contact from the other person. You cant be objective if you know there is someone waiting on you.
So thats the things that tick me off about the boards. What ticks you off ?