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So today FI and I were in the grocery store and the cashier noticed that my FI was wearing a diabetic insulin pump (he is a type 1 diabetic). She had no idea what it was and asked about it, which sometimes happens to him so no biggie (one time a professor actually told him to stop playing with his phone when really he was giving himself insulin lol). He told her that it was an insulin pump, she asked what that meant, and he just said that his body doesn't produce insulin like hers does so he needs it whenever he eats and blah blah. Well FI went to go bag the groceries and the cashier leans over to me and whispers "aren't you afraid that he is going to die???"
What in the WORLD was she thinking??? Grrr.
Wow that's so insensitive of her. Just because someone has a medical condition doesn't mean they are going to die. And obviously she doesn't know much about diabetes since she didn't understand what insulin was.
I know - she definitely had NO idea what it all meant. But I was just thinking... who in the world would say something like that to a total stranger?
That's rediculous! Even if she thought that, she should not have said it! You love him, that's what matters. And how does she not know what an insulin pump is?
That was really rude of her to ask. She obviously has no tact and quite honestly sounds a bit ignorant if she doesn't even know the basics of diabetes. Some people! What did you say in reply?
That is terrible! You should have responded back with "Aren't you afraid being rude to customers will cause you to lose your job??"
BTW I work with middle school kids at an after school program. One of our kids has type I diabetes with an insulin pump. He was in trouble one day and was sitting at a table by himself when I saw him looking down and playing with something. I instantly though cell phone (because the kids cant use them at the program and always try) and went to yell at him for a)having a phone out and b)using it while in trouble. Luckily I realized it was just his insulin pump before I said anything 
@Bella - I was just in shock! I just said "umm.. no, he controls it" and got the heck out of there lol
wow rude! my thoughts are along the same lines as babyboo; i proabaly would have blurted out 'arent you afraid of being stupid?'
Sounds like that cashier didn't have very good social skills a indiscreet question like that is something you would expect from a very young child.
some people are just rude and have no tact.
lol, i love rachaelrobin's response!
haha I agree with futuremrsgibbs.. that's something only a 4year old could get away with asking.
Yeah.. I just tried to wrap it up as quickly as possible. Of course I didn't tell FI about it, but I just keep thinking about it and every time I saw him eat something that wasn't salad today I kept freaking myself out. That was me highly overreacting, but I'm still mad at the girl for making me think about something like that all day :/
honestly, try not to let it bother you. not because she wasn't wrong because she OBVIOUSLY was! But more because she was clearly ignorant. Anyone who cares to educate themselvs (or just cares to have tact) knows that shouldn't be asked but she is obviously uneducated and lacks tact. You are so lucky to have a great guy and especially one who is so tolerant of constant questions. I have a friend who has type 1 diabetes and have learned a lot about what a normal, awesome life you can lead. It isn't a walk in the park but it certainly isn't debilitating if you don't let it. I wish you both the best and congrats :-)
A lot of people unfortunately do not think before they speak, she is one of them. Sorry you had to go through that, what a jacka$$!
I am diabetic. I have been asked a lot of questions in my life since I was diagnosed when I was 10, and back in 1995 only like 12 people in the world had it...lol Anyway, I have never heard that one! Don't let it get to you. Some people are just seriouslly lacking intelligence.
Wow! Woman is crazy. I can't believe an adult would have so little sense or tact. Sorry you had to deal with that, I guess you know which cashier to avoid next time you're at the store. :O
:( Mega bummer. Some people just don't know appropriate vs. inappropriate. Maybe she had a disorder of sorts (let's hope...that way it would be more tolerable). Sorry, love. Try to put it out of your mind.
RUDE! im a very sassy tell you like it is person but i think that would leave me speechless...You have nothing to worry about! : )
What the heck? You should ask her if she's scared by her own stupidity and ignorance.
That was definitely insensitive on her part. I would just let it roll off your back....unfortunately, there will always be people in this world that are harsh and tactless. =(
Omg, what an idiot! That was such a ignorant question. I'd leave it at that- ignorance.
Sometimes people honestly mean good, but have no clue about a situation - and therefore don't really know how to approach it.
It sucks, but you can take it as an opportunity to educate someone. :(
@silverbrooke - you hit the nail on the head!
My thought is that this woman was not trying to be mean. Just lacking social grace and knowledge.
Oh no.. don't worry about it, she clearly doesn't even know what it is.. my dad has was diagnosed with type 1 when he was 20.. he's almost 61 now, and doing great!
What a completely insensitive and horrid thing to say to someone! I'm so sorry that someone was so ignorant to your feelings. On the bright side... diabetes is becoming more and more treatable than it used to be and it sounds like your FI is taking VERY good care of himself :-)
Very Insensitive. Please try not to dwell on it. Sometimes we tend to let insensitive comments get to us, I know I do.
Ugh, what a tactless thing to say! The other day I bought a bathing suit at Target and the cashier said to me, "What is with all of this brand? Why is it so popular? It is so ugly." I mumbled some stuff but really, insulting the things that the customer is buying---or the customer himself, in your case---does not make for a great customer service experience. Buy some social graces, people!
Wow! Im sorry but I totally laughed out loud when I saw that! I can't believe she said that! Don't dwell on it, because as I'm sure you know... she's just doesn't know....
One of my best friends has severe hemophilia and sometimes has all kinds of medical devices around or tubes hanging out of him ;-). He too has developed a pretty good sense of humor about it and usually has great comebacks for ignorant people like this one ;-)
I totally feel you! My fiance is a type 1 diabetic and wears a minimed too, and he gets a lot of questions about his pump. Never had anyone say anything like that to us, though...
If you think about it, the person who said that was obviously completely uneducated about diabetes, and since they probably just don't KNOW anything about it said it. It's still a pretty dumb thing to say, though.
Thanks bees - glad I could vent to someone about this! I just hate when I run into those annoying people that are just straight up rude. You guys are right though, she honestly wasn't trying to be mean - she even sounded concerned for me lol But still, I just wonder what goes on inside of their crazy heads sometimes.
Oh you know what I just remembered- people do comment a lot on the "pager" in his pocket- especially those guys in malls that sell cell phones!! If we're walking around the mall somteimes one of them will yell "Is that a pager in your pocket? Get with the 21st century and get a cell phone!"
We think it's hilarious...
OMG! Even if he was in an iron lung you still shouldn't ask someone's fiance if they are DYING! There are no words for people like her!
@Miss Burgundy - that's what it was! I'm correcting myself - the professor yelled at him for playing with a pager not a cell phone hahaha I remember now because his reply was "Why in the world would I have a pager?" lol
my husband is type 1 as well, although he's not using a pump yet (we're waiting for some consistent health insurance...). i've never had an experience quite like yours, but i have had people comment to me that it bothered them that he injected his insulin at the dinner table. sure, it took me a little bit to get used to that, but are you kidding me?? this is his HEALTH we are talking about. if he does not give himself insulin he will die! that's not really an etiquette issue! do you want him to go inject himself in a filthy public bathroom where people might think he's doing drugs? i felt like my friends who said this were being so offensive and rude, and clearly did not understand this was a medical issue, not a preference - we didn't speak for months.
on the other hand, i definitely felt like i needed to learn more about diabetes when we first starting dating and found a ton of information (and blogs and forums) online that really educated me about not only the disease but the daily issues one has to deal with.
Has your FI tried going vegetarian at all?
There has been some nutritional research done about dietary adaptations that have helped both type 1 and 2 diabetes patients regulate their levels better, and some type 2 folks actually could stop taking their insulin.
The health benefits are numerous, and after making a life style change, my friend who did such (he was type 2 though) lost extra weight and did go off insulin. He was amazed :-) Type 1 won't I'd wager, but it couldn't hurt to give it a go for a few months.
She is clearly an idiot and completley insensitive. I was in a car accident a number of years ago and I experienced a similar ignorant comment from a complete stranger. I was in a wheel chair and was casted on one arm, and her comment was....."gee someone stuck her arm where she shouldn't have." That was seven years ago and to this day it still floors my mind to think that people could be so insensitve. You have to move of and look forward to a life time of love and happiness with your FI. Sorry that you had such a horrible experience.
that's really rude and insensitive. I'm sorry someone had the nerve to ask you that!
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