Post # 1
This is just something that’s been bugging me a bit lately after a comment from someone at work – I got engaged back in February, and my engagement ring is a little different. It’s a yellow sapphire with a smaller diamond on either side of the sapphire (kinda like this http://thegoldjewelry.com/images/Rings/925-sterling-silver-14k-yellow-gold-plated-ge200.jpg except the sapphire is a dark yellow instead of blue). On top of that, the sapphire is huge! Like, about the size of my little fingernail.
Anyway, while there’s been a lot of nice comments about it, there’s also been a lot of people saying things along the lines of “Is that really an engagement ring?? It’s so different!” Um…no. We’re just pretending to be engaged, y’know, cos it’s such a laugh and all :/
But a comment from a woman at work really pissed me off. Just the other week, she grabbed my hand while I was doing paperwork, glared at my finger and said “Are you sure it’s big enough??” It’s really pissed me off, because she said it in such a sarcastic tone. And apparently she’s been complaining to others about me having such a big engagement ring like it’s to show off to everyone.
Now, I know she’s a grumpy 40-something year old who constantly complains about being single, so I can understand her being annoyed at me getting engaged, but does she need to be so obvious about it? It’s not like I swan around the office showing it off to everyone; even when we first got engaged I barely said anything! More people found out from my FI than from me! I barely discuss wedding related things at work (only with two other people because they’re also planning weddings, so we swap ideas, etc.).
Anyway, I just really needed to vent – I’ve had that bottled up for a week or so!
Post # 3
Wow, I’d just take her opinion with a grain of salt. She just sounds like a bitter, jealous individual who can’t be happy for other people. There’s far too many people like that who just want to rain on everyone else’s parade.
It’s likely that she heard people talking about how nice your ring was and wanted to put a damper on things.
Just ignore her!
Post # 4
Wow! I’m surprised you managed to keep that in for a whole week! I probably would have busted that day!! I’ve read a few posts recently on this site and am shocked each time I hear about other Bee’s negative experiences with rude people. I can’t believe the s*it that people say!! People really need to learn to say nothing at all if they have nothing nice to say. Were we not all brought to be polite?? were these people brought up in a barn?? I know it’s hard, but you have to try and not let it bother you… unfortunately there will always be someone ready to bust your bubble. I personally think they have their own issues and project it to others to make themselves feel better.
ps: LOVE the ring! congrats!!!
Post # 5
Look, you have a very rare and special ring that had a lot of thought put into it, and yellow sapphire/diamond combos sounds amazing and something your FI knew would be right for you! Just keep wearing it, the size will grown on you and people will just become familiar with how it looks and stop noticing it is BIG as much as it is YOUR SIGNATURE. You have something and someone none of them will have.
Post # 6
I think that she is a hater of ur wonderful ring… She prob wants to make u feel like crap, because so many other people love it and are all baby eyes over you and ur ring… Ignore it.. ANd I agree I cant believe you kept that it… i would of spazed
Post # 7
I think the ring you posted looks nice so I bet you engagement ring looks nice as well. I wouldn’t let her get to me if I was you. It sounds like she is just jealous that you are going to get married in general and talking bad about your ring is the only way she could get to you. She is probably just trying to make herself feel better by bringing you down.
Post # 8
Sheesh, the comment itself is rude enough, but the fact she’s badmouthing you and your ring behind your back? Doubly uncool. Some people are just miserable haters. The ring you posted is lovely, and a classic design, so I don’t know what people are weirding out about over. It sounds like she’s jealous that you’re engaged, as well, so let her stay in her own unhappy world. She’s the one who looks bad in all this, not you.
Post # 9
What a rude biatch! Don’t let stupid comments ruin this for you. Enjoy the ring and your engagement. She’ll be a bitter single lady for her entire life with that attitude!
Post # 10
If she says something again, I would just very calmly say “green isn’t a very good color on you” with a smile. She won’t know what the heck to say.
Post # 11
People can be jerks about things that are no cookie cutter sometimes. Don’t let it get to you.
Post # 12
Your ring sounds absolutely lovely! I myself want a big ol’ yellow sapphire someday. Don’t let someone else’s statements made out of their own insecurity get to you. Girl, when you’ve got something great
ETA: sorry for the huge picture, I keep trying to resize but it isn’t working.
Post # 13
@LadyElva: she is grumpy b/c she is single and 40. Everybody will know that by her comments and can tell she is jealous. What a sad person 🙁
@NurseMarriedToAFarmer: hahahaha thats awesome!!!!
Post # 14
Seriously, that b**** is WACK. I feel like no other adjective is more appropriate for someone that ridiculously awful. Your ring sounds really pretty!
Post # 15
When you said people had been making comments, I expected the ring to be gaudy or something. But it’s not–it’s really pretty!
You’re getting a husband. With her attitude, which to me reads as desperation and men can see that coming a mile away, she’s probably going to spend the rest of her life eating TV dinners with only her ever-growing cat collection to keep her company. Karma and her own bad attitude has/will continue to inflict greater hurt upon her than you will ever be able to, so be nice to her. It will make you look even better in comparison to anyone who happens to pass by, and it will drive her crazy.
Post # 16
wow I bet its gorgeous! pictures please?? (I know this is an old thread, sorry!)