communication disconnect with MOH

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
42157 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@TrousseauHorse:  Honestly, if you want her to feel involved, I would just carry on as you have been. How much time does it really take to read her email response then say “Thanks for the information”?

You don’t have to engage in a debate about every item and you can still make the final decision.

If you don’t want to carry on this way, and you want her to be involved, can you find some item you don’t really care about ( like assembling the bathroom basket) and let her run with it?

Post # 4
3596 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

It’s simple you guys have very different ideas and taste, and if you going to take it so personal stop sending her links.

As her for budget for the dress, hopefully it’s reasonable, and go from there on finding a price you both can agree on.


Post # 5
105 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@TrousseauHorse:  Maybe send the pictures of stuff instead of the links?  That way she will only see the product and not the prices.  And if she asks you can just say they are all on sale for a good price, or just say they are in your budget!

Post # 6
1321 posts
Bumble bee

Honestly, I would just be super appreciative that I had a good friend who was supportive and willing to HELP me in the whole wedding planning process.  There are so many women who come to these boards complaining about how awful their MOHs are everyday.  I’m not trying to judge, but your MOH doesn’t sound that bad given how responsive and supportive she is.

Everyone is different when it comes to managing money.  To her, saving money is really important to her and for you, having nice things is worth the price of paying a little extra.  If I were in your shoes, I’d just appreciate that my MOH was so different from me and that her unique perspective on things could be beneficial sometimes (esp for things that don’t matter and you could save $$ on).  

Like the other pps said, you don’t have to ask her opinion on EVERY detail of your wedding nor do you have to read her emails if you don’t agree with her.  I definitely wouldn’t take anything she says personally because she’s just trying to help and doesn’t seem to have a mean intent in anything she does. 

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