Post # 1
I’ve come to realize that planning a wedding is a feat of coordination. Communication is one of the key elements in pulling the whole thing off, and is the thing that I think most frequently goes awry.
The most recent thing to occur in my planning is that a family member will ask someone else for information about the wedding and gets information that may or may not be accurate. This leads to all sorts of confusion, disarray and some re-duplication of efforts.
I’ve been trying to minimize this by being a good communicator and OVER-communicating with some folks. For me, the hardest person to acheive good communication with is my mom. We have very different communication styles and our default is to not communicate when things get confusing.
So I ask: Who have you had the most challenges communicating with during your planning process? How have you overcome these communication barriers?
I love the commercial below which typifies good wedding communication. I always ask FI if he needs a stunt groom!
Post # 3
Oh I love that commercial "NO Rain, NO Rainbows!"
My biggest communcation issue is FI genuinely not having an opinion on so many of the details. He’s a boy, and doesn’t care about the difference between ring postage, or the king and queen ones. Nor does he understand why I spent a whole day debating the issue. His opinion now and then would be nice. His opinion on the cake topper? "None is fine". Not one of the choices I presented, thank you.
Post # 4
I love that commercial! How the mother of the bride says, "score!" (I think that’s what she says) when she sees the stunt groom…that cracks me up!
As to your problem, is it the kind of thing a Wedding Website would help with? That can help if your issue is about communicating with your guests, and our sister site ProjectWedding.com has them for free!
If its with vendors, my advice is do as much as possible in writing. That way if anyone has questions, they can refer back to something concrete.
Hope this helps!
Post # 5
Communication was really hard with my family – until I started blogging! It really helps keep everyone on the same page.
I too love that commercial – too funny!
Post # 6
Ooooh, I just read your problem is with your Mom. That’s a rough one.
I’ve never had to plan a wedding, but I wonder where the sticking points will be with me when the time comes. I like to fancy myself all organized and calm but I’m not sure how I’d do with emotions, expectations, etc. running high. Maybe we will see one day!
Post # 7
In this particular case, I feel like we’re working through the issues. I’m making the calls to keep everyone in the loop.
I have a blog and we have a wedding website, but the people who need coordination help the most are the least likely to read them! Anyone know that feeling?!