- 9 years ago
- Wedding: March 2010
I need a little perspective from the beehive.
My FI and I have been in a long distance relationship since October. It’s been a little trying, but we’ve managed to see each other about once a month and talk every day in some form.
However, throughout this time, there have been a few days where it’s been a little difficult to communicate for a variety of reasons- busy-ness, phone malfunctions, internet issues, etc. I’ve done my fair share of freaking out during those times because, well, I have no idea what has happened to him if I don’t get a phone call within a few hours. I don’t have his friends’ phone numbers to see if he’s okay, and there’s no one there that I know that has any way of finding out for me if he’s even alive or dead. Maybe I’m paranoid, but considering we live 1000 miles away from each other…I’m concerned.
I’ve talked to him about my concerns, and he has given his mom instructions if anything serious were to happen, but what about days like yesterday, and today, where I just don’t hear from him and I have to assume that it’s because his phone is messing up, or because his internet isn’t working…and even then, if he’s healthy and everything is fine, he could take his computer somewhere and get a wifi signal, or borrow his mom’s phone just to tell me, "Hey, I’m alive, I’m having [insert problem here] but I miss you and love you and will talk to you as soon as I can."
Do I have a right to be angry and irritated and concerned? Should I just count my blessings and look forward to June when we won’t have the distance issue anymore? I kind of feel like a paranoid stalker crazy lady over here, but I also feel like this is a valid concern for our upcoming marriage. What if he has to work late and just assumes that I know that? These assumptions that I’ll assume the best possible outcome are just NOT reasonable to me.
What does everyone think?