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    lrwedd    September 4, 2010  

    My mom was telling me in our heritage it is commonplace for "compadres"  It is like a godparent.  But when it comes to the wedding these people sponsor parts the wedding. Mostly aunts and great aunts contribute I think.  For example, my grandma is paying for the cake, my aunt is paying for the DJ and invitations, a friend is paying for my shoes. Does anyone else have compadres?

     
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    MissLLC    August 7, 2010   Los Angeles

    Not for a wedding, but I've see it all the time for quinceaneras. Actually, I have seen it for a wedding, but just once. It was a Philipino couple and they listed the compadres on the invites.

     
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    JoJo Bananas    August 21, 2010   Santa Cruz, CA

    Yup, madrinas and padrinos.

     
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    Charm bracelet    July 24, 2010   Placentia, CA

    Yeah, it's not called compadres. It's called Padrinos or Madrinas....Nino and Nina for short.

    I have seen it done it weddings before but that is really an old school tradition.  It's more common in our home countries than here.

    I'm not having any, FI and I are paying for it all on our own.

     

    p.s. Compadre is used to describe the relationship between the Padrino and the parent of the godchild.  Example: I am the Madrina of your daughter for her baptism or quinceanera, so you and I are Comadres. 

     
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    verosara    March 27, 2010   LA, California

    We have some people who are contributing to our wedding.  We will have a pretty list framed with their names and what they want their contribution to go to.  So it will be our "Sponsor/Padrinos" list. 

     
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    SandAareEngaged    September 18, 2010   Pomona, California

    My family has those traditions too...

    its also normal to ask your close uncles, aunts, cousins or friends to be padrinos for something in your wedding. 

    Its great help for the wedding but Im just way too embarassed to ask anybody to pay anything in my wedding. I have a few padrinos and madrinas allready but only because they offered to help us out otherwise i would not dare to ask lol. Laughing

     
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    Sep_Queen    September 4, 2010  

    Those are traditions but I would not want anyone to help "sponsor" my wedding. Im with @SandAareEngaged I would not dare to ask or expect it from anyone. I take pride that my FI and I are doing it on our own.

     
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    Sweet tooth    September 5, 2009   Long Beach, CA

    My family was actually surprised that we didn't have any sponsors for our wedding.  We paid for the wedding ourselves and we didn't have to worry about people giving us opinions about things.  I've had many cousins not only expected but demand others in our family to give them money for their wedding.  I had one cousin say that everyone had to give them $200 each then when her sister got married she had the audacity to ask for $300.  I say if you have rich relatives then that's one thing but my relatives are no where near that. 

     
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    bridegrl    October 9, 2010   Monterey County, California

    Padrinos/Madrinas are very common in our culture (Mexican), traditional even. However, my FI and I are not having them. We felt kind of weird having to go to someone's house to ask for money, so we are skipping that tradition. Its a personal choice. Do what ever you like...

     
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    pokerlove    December 31, 2011   dfw

    yes padrinos y madrinas...in certain parts they call it compadres...were only asking those who have asked us for money..makes sense!

     
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    nenalibre1    June 21, 2013   South Jersey

    Im puertorican & my FI is black, my aunt & uncle are our padrinos. In my family they pay for the wedding cake, since our venue includes the cake their going to help with something else. Which was totally there choice, could never ask anyone to just give us money. We really just wanted them to have a special place in the wedding bc we're very close to them.

     
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    Mexicana@    June 23, 2012   Ohio

    I think It just depends how traditional you want to go. my FI is first generation Mexican-American and I haven't been to a wedding for his family that didn't have sponsors. We are having them just because we are both students and have a toddler so they really wanted to help us out. I was really worried about it at first but I know it means a lot to him and his family and it takes a lot of pressure off of us, which is great. I think that it just depends if people want to help you that's great let them, then u can always use that money that would have been for those things for a house or your honeymoon. I love it and my family thinks it's a nice idea too. My half-sister is having a quince the same year a few weeks after the wedding and they are having sponsers for it as well, my mom is freaking out about the whole thing. >.<

     

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