- 3 years ago
- Wedding: April 2015
I got engaged about three weeks ago and it was very much a suprise. FI and I had talked about getting married and knew we were going to, but last convo we had put it more around the one-year-from-now mark & we always knew we wanted a short engagement so…I kind of was thinking maybe in October-ish area. Anyway, I had just bought a condo and was freaking out about how much everything was costing me and fretting over how we are going to save money for our wedding/future. I mentioned to him that I might not want a diamond ring (as I had previously thought/discussed/pinned) when we get married/engaged and that we should consider alternatives. I mentioned moissanite to him as I had done some reasearch through lurking on Bee Boards and he was way less receptive than I expected. I backed off and told him I would email him links to some info.
Fast forward 1 month: He proposes and I’m engaged out of the blue on a random Monday night! (perfect proposal btw, so romantic, he planned a whole secret thing) I was so so so enamored with looking at my ring and saying how beautiful it is and what a great job he did- then he tells me it’s a diamond, and he hopes I’m not upset, but that he felt it’s what I deserved, he spent responsibly and that he is just super traditional. I was not at all upset; I trusted him and respected him for sticking to how he felt. And was THRILLED with my ring.
Fast forward to last week: FI and I shopping in the mall to try on bands. We pass a store and he points to it and says “that’s where I investigated the moissante and I just didn’t like it as much as the diamond I had already chosen for you.” HE HAD ALREADY BOUGHT ME A RING WHEN I WAS HAVING THE CONVO WITH HIM. Talk about feeling like an idiot; I then realized why he was so non-receptive— I had thrown a big curve ball at him right after he made one of the most important decisions of his life. lol I don’t rememeber what I said but it was something like “oh! You did so much research! And I love what you chose!” because I really really do.
BUT…part of me was still curious as to “what” it was he didn’t like about it. I went back to the mall to exchange a bra and decided to go into the store that carries moissanite. The lady was nice and let me take pics. She didn’t tell me if it was the Forever Brilliant or not, also they didn’t have my cushion shape, but I got a pretty good comparison. I took three pics at different angles. I really liked my diamond better when I compaired the two (like 100x more) BUT when I didn’t have the moissanite next to my diamond, it was beautiful on it’s own. I might investigate a pair of earrings or a bracelet one day for myself. 🙂
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