Compared My Diamond to Others

posted 2 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
7185 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

All I can say is comparison is the thief of joy.

Post # 4
667 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I was very disappointed to discover that IGL standarts are not even close to GIA, and my diamond is really not that good as I thought. But my problem is in the cut, not the color.

I understand your feelings, really. Who wants to be fooled when it comes to such an expencive and meaningful thing as e-ring?..((

Post # 7
7896 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

Im sure my ring would look warm sitting next to a D too, just don’t compare and viola happy! Was the grading certified or just in house? 

Post # 9
3406 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

You’re looking at this all wrong. That other jeweler would tell you lots of nice things and at least one bad thing so he could later convince you to buy your “new” and “better” diamond from him. Your ring is beautiful and I can guess that your Hubby spent a great deal on it.  It looks VERY white from the photos! You can’t have everything sometimes you have to sacrifice certain C’s to get what you want. I think your mistake was comparing your ring to others, no good could come from that.

Post # 10
867 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Old Hollywood:  try to remember that the average person knows nothing about diamonds. When people ask to see your ring they arent spending five mins inspecting the color and clarity, that notice the overall look. It’s easy to feel insecure about your less than perfect diamond on these boards but I promise you in real life no one notices. 

Post # 11
689 posts
Busy bee

Nothing good can come from Comparing to other diamonds. Every diamond is unique. Love yours for what it is. 

Post # 12
929 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

your ring is pretty and if I were you I would not compare. No diamond is really perfect they all have their own personality.  My diamond is an M in color an I love it.  and to be honest, nobody is looking at your ring trying to figure out what color it is so, I wouldnt worry.  I agree with the other posters, comparison is dangerous and the jewelry store wants you to buy a diamond, what better way than to make you feel insecure regarding your current diamond. 


I love your ring

Post # 13
6431 posts
Bee Keeper

Agree with all the PPs — with diamonds, let’s face it, unless you’re sporting a 300 carat, D, FL diamond, there will ALWAYS be one that’s technically “better” than yours out there. So you just have to stop comparing and know that what you have is perfect for YOU.

The only point at which I would have a real issue with this myself is if FI had paid the premium for a higher clarity or color and then we came to find out it was actually NOT that clarity or color. I would be upset with the place he bought it from thinking that he got ripped off and would probably become more unhappy with the diamond just because I would feel like it was the result of FI being conned.

Just remember that no matter what other diamonds look like, yours is special and has a story now. That’s irreplaceable. 

ETA: A few more thoughts:

  • I agree with the PP that it’s likely the jeweler was trying to “bad mouth” your diamond in hopes you’d upgrade with him and he’d make a sale.
  • Was your diamond clean? Diamonds get dirty so fast and if it hasn’t been cleaned recently, it would certainly not sparkle as much as the super-clean ones in the store.
Post # 14
1032 posts
Bumble bee

They’ll alwaya be someone thinner, pretty, smarter….. yada yada yada. if your ring made you happy a week ago you should be happy now. its a gorgeous ring from the love of your life. I wouldn’t take much stock in what a mall salesman says about your ring. hes a iduot. Now I bet you won’t use that store for your wedding ring or any other jewelry purchases. 

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