Post # 1
Lately I’ve been feeling really poorly about how my wedding will compare to others. My budget isn’t tiny ($16k), but definitely not extravagant either. I think after watching so many wedding shows where brides have $200k weddings it’s hard not to compare. I’m just worried that everyone else is going to be comparing my wedding to those shows too.
Post # 3
I don’t know if this will help you feel better, but I never compare weddings I go to to the ones on TV. If I compare them at all, I always compare them to other weddings I’ve been to. Most people know the weddings on TV are outrageous, so I highly doubt anyone will be expecting such an outrageous wedding from you unless all the weddings they’ve actually been to are like that, which I highly doubt
Post # 4
Is it really worth spending all of that money FOR ONE DAY? I don’t want to speak for anyone, but I think most would agree NO.
Post # 5
Don’t compare. There will always be someone that did it better, or cheaper, or prettier or whatever. But there is only one you celebrating YOUR day YOUR way. Just enjoy the moment because it will be over in the blink of an eye and then you’ll wonder what you spent all that money on anyway.
Post # 6
Thats crazy to compare you wedding to the ones on TV. Unless you budget is the same, how can you possbily compare them? That’s a losing battle. Have the best wedding you can on your budget. And try harder to ignore the rest.
Post # 7
Comparing your wedding to a wedding on TV is like comparing your body to a picture in a victoria’s secret catalog…you’re just going to disappoint yourself. The reason for that isn’t because what they have is better, it’s because they’re only putting the best parts out there; you’re not seeing the behind the scenes stress, or how that flower arrangement looks bare from one side. It’s the same thing with catalogs, you don’t see what they have to photoshop out. It’s a production, not an intimate celebration.
Post # 8
@Soon_To_Be_Mrs_T: I think those who have really expensive weddings with large numbers of people are the ones who will be compared. They are obviously trying to impress, and guests feel that.Those with smaller numbers and budgets will have guests they actually know and associate with, and who are there for the bride and groom not the fanfare or to be seen.
I would much rather the latter.
Post # 9
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
Someone once posted on here a quote that I really liked. “Comparison is the theif of joy”. Don’t let “reality” tv steal your joy.
Post # 11
I’m personally glad my wedding is only costing $6k. If my Sams Club flowers don’t work out, it’s a lot easier to say “well what do you expect for $230?!” instead of going to a florist and say “holy crap, I spent $900 on this stuff and I hate it!!!!”. Can you imagine ending up hating your venue when it cost you the same amount as a house downpayment?
Post # 12
Stop watching wedding shows!!!!!! It sounds like they’re making you feel bad! And what’s the benefit? Just watch something else!
Post # 13
Shut off the tv and … meh .. live. $16k isn’t something to sneeze at …. no are you going to have something to rival something on tv … NO
You can have a great day … it’s ONE DAY.
Post # 14
You can’t compare your wedding to one that would cost over 10X as much!! Want what you have and have what you want:)
Post # 15
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Make your wedding reflect you. Your guests that matter only want to be there for you and will have reasonable expectations.
Post # 16
With 16,000 dollars you can have an amazing wedding. It’s all about what your prioritize spending that money on. I have a similar budget (a little less actually) and I’m having my dream wedding. There’s not much David Tutera could do to improve what Ihave planned. But if shows are really bringing you down than I suggest you stop watcing them.