Post # 1
Throughout the planning process of your wedding, was there any competition or jealousy about another person’s wedding? Was it one specific person? Was the wedding really close to yours?
If yes – why?
If not a direct competition, do you compare your wedding with other people’s in general? To what extent? Are/were you a much more critical guest while in the wedding planning process?
Post # 3
@mscuppycake: The only thing I compare when it comes to weddings is how well organized/planned the wedding is. Are the guests always comfortable? Are there long wait times with nothing to do? Is there plenty of food/drinks? No matter how much money is spent, a poorly planned wedding with terrible logistics will always be a terrible wedding.
Post # 4
@mscuppycake: I had a good friend from high school literally take every idea I had. Down to my colors and my BM dresses AND my wedding dress designer. I just started lying to her when she would ask. And wouldn’t you have it, when her wedding came around it was pretty much how I had told her I planned it. My wedding was a few weeks before hers so she was probably really surprised when I had a totally different wedding than the one she thought!
But our friends would tell me how she made it a point to see what went wrong at my wedding so she could improve hers. She’s got some issues though so I honestly didn’t care. I loved my wedding and hers was great too. She may have felt the need to one up my wedding but I really couldn’t have cared any less.
Post # 5
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
So 4 of us got married in the same year. I don’t think any of us saw it as a competition. We freely traded vendor tips, neat ideas, etc. It probably helped that each of us wanted something different from the others. But since mine was the last of the 4, I definitely used the other 3 as a learning experience. I learned from #1 the importance of having an awesome DOC (not a mediocre one). I was the one running around lighting all of the candles on the tables for the reception because the DOC couldn’t be bothered to care. WTF? From #2 I learned the importance of having a great MUA (my girlie looked amazing, and gave a lot of credit to her MUA). From #3 I learned the importance of anticipating outside circumstances and having a good back-up plan. There was a festival going on near the venue and the music was so loud that it completely drowned out my friend’s entire ceremony. Guests couldn’t hear anything over the sound of loud jazz and hip hop, and that carried over through cocktail hour, too.
I don’t think I was more “critical”. Moreso, I was more observant. And after experiencing all of those, and not being able to say what the centerpieces looked like even a week later, it helped me put things into perspective. No, I have no clue what the bouquets looked like, but I do remember the way those couples smiled at each other, how happy I felt to congratulate them and have a few moments to chat, the food, the music (for better or for worse), etc. That helped me get a grip on what really mattered.