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Competitive Nature + Insecurity = Jealousy

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
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    Mrs. Dee to Bee    January 30, 2010   Louisville, KY (Wedding in TX)

    As the big day gets nearer, several of my classmates from elementary school through college are getting married and it's like a wedding frenzy! I though January was when NOBODY got married! Anyway, I can't help but stalk all the pictures on facebook and inside I wonder, Is ours going to be that great? Will I look as good as her? Did I pick a good enough photographer, florist, insert-vendor-name-here? I know a lot of brides go through this, but I'm wondering if any of you have suggestions for how to combat competitiveness, jealousy and insecurity as the big day gets closer. 

     
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    jwinnings      

    just...breathe...

    youre wedding will be as fabulous as the wonderful bride herself!

     
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    ashleyjane    1/16/2010   Tampa, FL

    I feel like this all the time- so much pressure for a few hours!

     
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    Tanya123      

    Uh, yeah, I hear ya.  I think my advice is to make sure to stay true to yourself.  Use the ideas that really stick with you.  If you see your friend used beautiful centerpieces of roses and carnations, don't drop your idea of peonies.  They will look beautiful too.  And I think it will show if you are happy with what you've selected, vs. just choosing something because you thought it's what you should have selected.

    Also use this time to really research.  Use your friends' fb pics to get ideas or narrow the list.  Scour the internet.  I think you will feel better if you feel like you've done your due diligence.  And keep in mind no matter how hard you plan, some glich will pop up.  Guests rarely know.

     

    Good luck.

     

     
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    bellenga    July 31, 2010   Georgia

    It will be great!

    Don't worry.

    I had 3 of my best friends all marry at once back in that magical year of 1996.  I was in all their weddings.  All of them were different and all of them were good.

    Unless you booked a chapel and both then further booked the exact same wedding package deal, you have nuthin' to worry about!

    Smile!  It will be beautiful.

     
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    naangel55    June 20, 2009   Long Beach, CA

    Each wedding is so unique to the couple its very hard for people to actually compare them.   Besides my wedding, I was in 3 other weddings within 4 months of mine!  They were all so different there and really reflected the couple that there was really no way to compare them. Your wedding will be perfect because its YOUR wedding!

     
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    tammyt112    May 29, 2010  

    I get nervous alot and so does FI, at least we'll both have each other but it is nerve wrecking knowing everyone will be watching every move you make and every detail of the wedding. Im sure it will be fine for you and for me! Just make sure you are happy with your hair and make up that day and get plenty of rest

     
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    2PeasinaPod       Philadelphia

    I think the biggest thing to keep in mind is that you are making your wedding your own. My best friend, me and my roommate got married within 4 weeks of each other, and every wedding was completely different! My BFF had a hindu/christian wedding in our hometown at a hotel, I had an orthodox wedding with over 300 people in our hometown and my roommate had a country wedding on a pig farm (yes, a pig farm). All were fun and had their own touches of the person getting married! My BFF and I even used the same photographer, and he gave a different look/feel to each wedding b/c the personalities were different. The less you worry about it, the more fun you'll have at your own and theirs!

     
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    LatteLove    June 19, 2009   Chicago/San Diego

    I'm so glad to have gotten married around very few other engaged/newly married people in my circle.  I didn't have much to compare it with then.  But my sister is getting married this year, and I totally have all the same fears about inferiority(and my wedding is already over!)

    There's no looking back, and ultimately, as long as your wedding is what you want, it's the best it can be!  I doesn't matter how it matches up to other weddings according to industry standards!

    Hopefully you'll get lots of great inspiration though!

     

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