- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
This is just a vent post. Does anyone else have family members or friends who just feel the need to complain about everything concerning your wedding? Ugh!
FFIL- never fails at an opportunity to interject how much he hates the tan suits we picked out that he has to also wear. Yeah, we get it, you hate the tan suits, sorry, last I checked this is our wedding, your son loves the tan suits, we are not changing them, so suck it up!
FMIL- truly believes, and actually told us, that this is “our wedding, but its the ‘parents’ party.” SERIOUSLY?!? She and Future Father-In-Law have invited quite a few of THEIR friends, people my FH doesn’t even know. Arrghghghg. She also complained about where we are going for our honeymoon because she thinks it isn’t safe, and suggested we do Disneyland or something. Seriously no offense to those who choose Disneyland, but that is SOO not mine and FH’s tastes, and she should know better than that!
BM/sister- complaining about bachelorette party and trying to do what SHE wants to do instead of what my other bridesmaids and I want to do. So annoying! It is MY bachelorette party, not yours!
Other BMs/sisters- seem to interject their opinion on EVERYTHING! If I like it one way, they usually think it should be done a different way.
MOB- I love her to death, but she also complains way too much. Since she and my dad are footing most of the bill, she takes it upon herself to say well if you want that, you can pay for it, because I am not paying for something that is so ridiculous and unneccessary–i.e. chair covers, ceremony musician, real flowers, etc. My FH and I have to pay for the chair covers ourselves, and the ceremony musician. My mom took it upon herself to do all of the flowers (silk), but they actually turned out pretty well (phew). The reason she didn’t want to pay for a ceremony musician is because I do have a lot of musically talented family members–who are also bridesmaids. Sorry, not going to have them running all over during the ceremony. I think she is still bitter that we are getting married where we live, not in my hometown. She has also turned into child, I think, because anytime she feels that pushy Future Mother-In-Law is doing something with me, she starts crying because she feels “left out.” I seriously have to make it a point now to do everything with her because of this.
Last but not least, FH!!! Every time we have a wedding function (shower, vendor appointment, etc.), he rolls his eyes and complains about having to miss an opportunity to hang out with his buddies, etc. I always say–sorry, you popped the question, you want to marry me, so this is all part of the deal. Suck it up. Haha!
Does anyone out there have a stress-free, drama-free family who absolutely respects the opinions of the two people who are getting married? If so, I am pretty jealous! I love my family, but I just wish they had some better manners to keep some of their opinions to themselves! I really appreciate their help (time and $$$), but they have sort of taken all the fun out of my wedding planning with their opinions, snide remarks, etc. I am SOOOOO ready to just get the wedding over with, and I am just sad that I feel this way because I thought I would enjoy planning my wedding so much 🙁 I just hate feeling like I am scooting around everyone’s feelings & opinions trying not to step on anyone’s toes, when really, they should all be scooting around MY feelings! I finally had a discussion with my family that the drama has got to stop, I need and appreciate their help, but ultimately, it should be my decision and they need to respect that. Argh. I swear I am not a bridezilla–or at least I wasn’t LOL.