Post # 1
I think this would fit under characteristics of ‘wellness’?… Sorry it it’s wrong…!
So, I have always been a negative Nancy. I tend to complain about the same stuff, different day.
Work? Supervisor sucks, boss doesn’t do anything! Tomorrow it’ll be the same! I’ll gripe to my mom, or SO. Same sh**, different day. Home? SO has graveyard shifts, and I’m still in College, so I hardly see him, it’s like I live alone. I do everything, the only change is food disappears and dishes end up in the sink. SO LOVES his job. He makes decent pay for his age, is able to support him and myself comfortably. Although, sad as it is, I get embarrassed when he talks about work to others. He’s a supervisor in stock at a local big box store. He likes his job. He’s moved up fairly fast, but it’s embarrassing… I know he’s not a ‘Doctor’ or ‘Lawyer’, but still, when my dad asks him hows work, and he gripes because he ‘didn’t get any forklift time today’ it’s embarrassing… My dad works 17 hours on the rigs, and he doesn’t complain… sometimes I feel my SO is less of a man?…
I just complain in circles! I try to stop… But I have a hard time; things just end up piling on, and I burst into a fiery explosion of negativity. What can I do? Nothing is ever good enough, I’m a jealous envious mess!
Post # 3
@Haruyou: You honestly need to look at the bright side of things. Your SO has a job that he loves, that makes enough money to support you both – not many people can say ‘I love what I do’. So what if the job is warehousing, being a doctor/lawyer, being a garbage man, stockbroker etc. If you can find a job you love, then life is so much easier. It seems that you expect more from your SO which isn’t fair. He does what he loves and knows how to do, and it sounds like he does very well at it. It’s nothing to be ashamed of – you should be proud.
My SO has been doing the same type of work and loves it. I couldn’t do what he does because it’s too physically demanding. He says he couldn’t do what I do because it’s too mentally demanding. Everybody has their own set of skills, and the key is to find employment that allows you to use and expand on those skills.
I used to complain about my work all the time, but I’ve changed tactic. Instead of complaining all the time, but now, if SO asks me how work was, I’ll say ‘XYZ was being difficult, but it’s over now!’. In this economy, I’m lucky to have a job that pays me well, that for the most part is pretty good. You have to look at the positives, not just negatives.
Post # 4
@Deejayelle: Yes, I try to stop myself from being embarassed… I keep telling myself just that, ‘He loves it! Thats just awesome.”
Aaah, but I’m a whiner! I’ve tried the “____ is bugging me, but GOOD to be home.” but then an hour or so later, I burst!! 🙁 Any tips to keep with it?
Thank you for being so kind. I know I was/am being a snot, but I’m trying hard!
Post # 5
KEEP VENTING ON HERE!!! JOIN US!!!!