(Closed) Complete name change……

posted 7 years ago in Names
  • poll: Did you completely change your name?
    Nope just my last name : (27 votes)
    77 %
    Yes my first name : (0 votes)
    Yes my middle name : (4 votes)
    11 %
    Yes my entire name is new (explain) : (4 votes)
    11 %
  • Post # 3
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I’ve thought about changing my name, but not as drastically as you–I just want to drop my middle names. One is a family name (my maternal grandmother’s), but the other was/is just a filler. As a matter of fact, my parents didn’t even choose my name.. my Mum stole it from my Aunt out of desparation. I was born at 24 weeks, and they wanted a name for me, just in case.

    I don’t know if I’ll end up doing it, but it has been on my mind for quite a while.

    Post # 4
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    216 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I don’t actually have a middle name but I’ll be making my maiden name into my middle, so technically I’m “changing” it.

    Post # 5
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    229 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I didn’t, but I remember Mrs. Lovebug made this choice. I wouldn’t make a change like that without telling my family, but I think whether to change it is your choice.

    Post # 6
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    I know I’ve posted about this before and I think you replied on my other post so bear with me if you’ve heard my story/reasoning..

    And by the way, I love the name Amanda but you are right, it WAS popular during that time.. my niece is named Amanda and she was born in 1986.    I know how it is to have a name that was just trendy during the decade you were born. Worse when there is some cheezy song associated with it!

    I plan on a total name change.  It will be weird since I am almost 40!  But I hope to do it before we move out of state, that way I will start fresh with a new name and not have as much difficulty with people getting used to it, if that makes sense.  My kids don’t call me anything but “Mom” and my wife calls me “Babe” so it shouldn’t affect them too much. 😉

    But like you, I have always hated my name.  It just doesn’t suit me at all and my mom admits she picked it becasue the hospital was pushing her to pick something.  I went for a week with no name at all!  She tried to convince them to let her take me home and name me later.. she said she needed to “know” me to know what name would fit, and that makes sense, but they wouldn’t allow it (military hospital) so she just kind of pulled a name out of what was popular and that was that.   She had expected a boy, I think, and didn’t have any names ready.

    I think a name should have careful consideration and meaning and ideally, a family connection.  My sons names were both chosen for their meaning and have family significance.   My mom didn’t even “really like” my name! 

    My last name (my father’s name) is hard to pronounce, always misspelled, and I have no affection for it.. my father and I were NOT close.

    So I will most likely be changing my first name to my G-Grandmother’s (Lucile) and going by “Lucy”.  I have surveyed friends and family and everyone agrees it suits me 100x better than my given name.   I haven’t decided what to do about my middle name yet.. it’s just a typical “filler” middle name so I will probably change it too, not sure to what.

    Then my last name will be my wife’s Grandma’s maiden name.  It’s gorgeous and my wife has a last name that is “not hers” for reasons you gave about your Aunt.. her last name was her mom’s first husband’s name.  A man she has never met and has nothing to do with and who is not her father, and it’s super common.

    My wife is also changing her 1st name to a nickname she has gone by for a long time.  She already has 2 names unofficially.. a nickname her family calls her, based on her birth name, and totally NOT HER,  and a nickname she’s used as an adult that everyone else knows her by, work, school, etc., but isn’t legally her name.   So she is changing her legal name to the one used most, but among her fmily she will still be known by the old name, but she isn’t very close with them so it’s not an issue really.  And she will also be taking her Grandma’s maiden name as her lst name so we will have the same surname.

    Wow, I didn’t mean for that to get so long! But I wanted to share because I understand why you want to do this.   My mom has no issue with me changing my name and even encouraged it (and at one point offered to pay for it!)..   I think life is too short to go around with a name or names you can’t stand.  I cringe every time I hear my name spoken out loud!

    Post # 7
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    755 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I’m doing a crazy change. I’ll give you a random name example:

    My Original name is something like Michaela Lynn Harrison. Well, my biological father’s a jerk, and my mom terminated his parental rights a long time ago. But my grandfather (my bio dad’s dad) just recently passed away, and that made me realize that, unless my dad and step mom have children soon, I’m the last of the “harrison” line.  SO, I’m keeping Harrison in my name.

    A few weeks ago, my mom brought up the idea of having my step dad adopt me.  So, we are doing an adult adoption, and I will be “Michaela Lynn Harrison Bunn“.

    Fast forward nine months, I’m getting married, dropping my middle name (that I hate), and will take my FH unique last name, the actual name is High. So, finally, I will be “Michaela Harrison Bunn High”!


    Post # 8
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I was also given a name that was very popular during the 80’s: Sarah. I’ve never really liked it much but I couldn’t imagine changing it because it would result in hurt feelings in my family (parents and grandmother – I was named after her, first and middle). Plus, FI says he loves my name, for whatever reason. So I’ll just be changing my last name.

    Post # 9
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    361 posts
    Helper bee

    I’m an Amy, and I’m okay with being Amy. But I have 2 middle names that make me sound like I was born amongst the banjo dwelling hillfolks of Deliverance. I also have a maiden surname that only my SO calls me by and everybody else calls me by my legal last name which is my first husbands (and also my kids). I’ll be dropping the ex’s name for my SO’s name, but I haven’t decided what I’ll do about my middle names. They were picked from my grandmothers names, so rather than choose, I may just drop and become Amy Maiden SO Last instead of Amy, Bad Middle, Bad Middle Last. I am one of two girls, and my dad’s only brother died years ago and only had a daughter, so the name line ends with us, so I’m thinking of keeping it. Not for my dad, but for my grandpa. And that’s all probably confusing. 

    Post # 10
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    538 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011 - Franciscan Gardens

    I think that you have every right to change your name to whatever you want but I think that you need to tell your parents. Not telling them could lead to a lot of confusion and potentially a legal mess if they name you in their wills, powers of attorney etc and you never told them that legally your name is not what they think it is…. I can think of lots of other scenarios where this could be an issue, but I think you get the point…

    Post # 11
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    I dropped my middle and took my maiden as my middle when we got married. My middle had no significance, just sounded good with my first, and I have awards, publications, and degrees in my maiden name, so this way I will be sure to be linked to everything else. It has also made it easier when using my passport (which still has my maiden name one it) or anything else with my maiden, since it is unique and uncommon

    Post # 12
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    @Miss Marine: Ha, yeah, so true.  Get this; (true story)… I didn’t change my name the first time I married.  Everyone ASSUMED I did, though.

    My father and I weren’t very close; birthdays and Christmas visits but that was about it. So he was one who assumed I’d changed my name and he named me in his will with the WRONG NAME.

    I didn’t realize this until after he passed away!  What it meant from then on is that I received oil royalty checks made out to the wrong name and it was a mess.  My bank let me cash the checks because my (then) husband and I had joint accounts so even though my name wasn’t  the same as his, since he was on the accounts they let it slide.  I had to go through a big headache to get it fixed and even now there are still problems. 

    I sold the oil royalties years ago, but found out I have “unclaimed funds” held by the state, from oil companies who sent me checks after I moved and for whatever reason they didn’t catch up with me and were turned over to the state. And yes, you guessed it, the old wrong name.  It’s been a nightmare trying to prove a name change that never happened.  They kept telling me that I needed to provide proof of my “name change” and I kept trying to explain that there never was a NAME CHANGE!  Round and round.  I still have no idea how I am gonig to be able to cash those checks held by the state, years later, when I thought it was all fixed and over with. They are made out to me, with my first name and my ex’s surname and there’s no “joint account” to help out now since he and I haven’t been together in almost a decade!

     

    Post # 13
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    410 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I can sympathize. I was born in the 70’s and I’m a Jennifer.

    I just wanted to say this post reminds me of the Friends episode where Phoebe went to change her name after she got married, and was told she could pick whatever name she wanted, and chose the name Princess Consuela Banana Hammock. LOL! Of course her husband was not pleased (played by the ever adorable Paul Rudd) so he threatened to change his name to Crap Bag, or something.

    Anyway, carry on.   🙂

    Post # 14
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I’m an Amanda as well, born in 1989. In my grade in high school there were about 10 Amanda’s! I couldn’t imagine changing my name though 🙂

    Post # 15
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011 - Franciscan Gardens

    @MsInterpret: Oh my!! What a headache! That’s the exact reason that people need to know! especially parents!! Oh, @PrincessMandieMae: Please tell your Mom and Dad!!

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