Post # 1
I know that this is COMPLETELY first world problems, but I am just totally freaked out by the thought of registering for gifts. We have been engaged for 10 months already, with 8 to go, so it’s getting to the point where we need to do so if we are going to. We weren’t going to register at all at first, but since we are having an out of town wedding, and a lot of friends are in school, I didn’t want everyone feeling pressured to write a check for a certain dollar amount, or feel like they have to lug something to the actual wedding, etc.
But it’s so freaking overwhelming! What kind of plates do I want? I HAVE NO IDEA. Which basically goes for everything. I know there are basic checklists of what you should have on your registry but within each category I have no idea.
Maybe I just don’t have the eye for a cohesive design, or…I don’t even know.
Anyone have tips for where to register? Anything you wish you had registered for? How to not completely freak myself out over the experience….sigh.
Post # 3
I’d start out by putting the things on there you know you want. Then add as you figure out what else you want. You can add and delete things from home which is awseome! I registered at macys and kohls. I hear target gives you a hard time returning things. Baby steps ,Good luck!
Post # 4
What do you actually need? I would mostly put things on there that you need. If you already have perfectly good plates, then why register for more?
Normally you’d register for place settings (like big plate, little plate, matching other stuff etc.), but most likely you won’t get it all if you ask for 6 settings, for example. Then you’d have to buy the rest or you’ll have an incomplete set hanging around. So be really sure about what you truly want. I think you get a discount after your wedding to complete the registry… so think hard about what you’re willing to spend yourself. Just make it worthwhile.
Lots of people put fun stuff on there that’s never used. Like a juicer or waffle maker… ice cream maker… stuff that sits in the closet.
Are there any stores you really like? I love Crate & Barrel for example. Talk a walk around and see what stuff you would love to have in your home. Pick stuff for every room in the house.
I would have items at every price point on there. From $5 to $500 (say if you want something like an awesome vacuum cleaner – people can go in together to buy it for you, or some family members will want to spend more).
You don’t have to feel guilty about having a registry… just don’t put it on invitations or anything. Some will buy off the registry, others won’t. Only mention it if people ask. And don’t put anything on there just for the sake of it.
Post # 5
You can do the whole thing online! No fuss, no muss. Just pick two or three department stores that you like, create an account and start clicking on things.
Don’t register for things you’re not sure about. And if you don’t have a clear idea about a china pattern, pick plain white china, which goes with everything. Keep it simple!
Post # 6
1. figure out what you need- think kitchen, bathroom, bedroom, living room, dining room, and travel. Dishes, pots, pans, appliances, utensils, glasses, bedding, towels, luggage, etc.
2. figure out what store/stores you wish to register (i used one store)… Macys, Bed Bath and Beyond, Target, Bloomingdales, Crate and Barrel, etc…..
3. spend a few weeks registering… most stores allow you to edit the wedding registry online so that you can add items daily to the registry
4. have a nice price range of items available to guests ($5- whatever) so that there should be something for everyone
5. do not open or use anything until after the wedding. Wait until after the wedding to assess what you received. Feel free to return or exchange those items that do not work. Most stores have a wonderful and easy return policy for items that are bought off the registry
6. do not be afraid to put a few expensive items on the registry… sometimes friends and family will go in on a major gift.
7. Do not be afraid to update the registry as you see fit……
8. Registering is helpful to guests….