Completely different wedding than I originally wanted (courthouse advice?)

posted 3 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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52 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I had a courthouse wedding.I had 5 family members come to the ceremony.We made dinner plans and went to a nice restaurant afterward.I’m not sure if there is a limit to how many you can invite to the courthouse to witness the ceremony.I would call and see what rules they have.You could google officiants in the area you would like to get married and maybe have the ceremony in a park.I hope you enjoy your day !

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Sb91:  I flagged your post to be moved to “ceremony” 🙂 

 

As far as what kind of wedding you want, really you can do ANYTHING!

Check with your state government website to see who has marrying authority.  In Virginia we can use a Justice of the Peace, but I’m not sure about PA.

If you want to keep things simple, you can either go get married at the courthouse and bring along parents/siblings/best friends or you can see if the JoP will come to you, and you can do something for family and close friends at a park, museum, restaurant, wherever really.

Your reception can be as simple or extravagant as you like.  You can bring cake and punch to the courthouse with you, have appetizers and drinks at a restaurant, have a backyard BBQ at home, really the sky is the limit!  Well the sky and your budget I suppose Wink

 

Post # 5
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458 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

my fiancé and I are actually husband and wife.  Lol. We went to the courthouse a few weeks ago. For a number of reasons it made sense to get hitched legally and then have the bells and whistles wedding later. It isn’t a big secret but we didn’t tell our extended family just to avoid confusion. Courthouse weddings can be very simple or elaborate. Here are my tips. 

we just had our parents with us but the courthouse would allow up to 25 guests. Check your courthouse’s website for their rules and regulations. They also tend to be limited in the days/times they’ll do weddings so make sure it works for when you can. 

if you go on a popular day, you’ll be waiting around with other wedding parties. some were in jeans and tshirts and some were in full on ballgowns and tuxes. Wear what you want. It was a fun atmosphere. We’d cheer when they came out and joke around. I got to play with a chihuahua in a tiny wedding dress which was cool.  Some had pro photographers and limos so you can def work in those aspects. 

The courthouse ceremony is SHORT. We were in and out in under 10 min. No customization, no option to add decorations. That worked for us as we are having our personalized ceremony later. If you want something more personalized, see if your county will appoint someone as ‘deputy for the day’. you submit their name and a check and they approve that person to do your ceremony on a specific date. You could go to a pretty park and have a friend perform a more personalized ceremony. 

 

Good luck! 

Post # 7
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52 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Thanks! I wore a little white dress with a big black fur coat and my husband wore a button down with jeans.lol.So we were kinda dressy casual.I had my hair,makeup and nails done up.We brought our own digital camera and of course my family brought their cameras too to capture the moments.As far as looking silly by overdressing…I wouldnt worry about that at the courthouse.Im sure they have seen everything form big and poofy to short and simple.For dinner/reception with about 20 ppl thats still very intimate and you could easily book a space in a restaurant.What is your dress like btw?

Post # 9
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52 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

 that is a really cute dress!

 

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