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That quick and I feel better

posted 2 years ago in Emotional

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Busy bee

PandasWifey September 26, 2009 Denver, Colorado

Just typing this post, I realized I don't need to post it here, but maybe send another version to my family instead. Thanks ladies!!!

2 years ago

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Bee Keeper

eloping May 23, 2010

my only advise is never discuss personal stuff about you and your hubby with family... family, money and their opinions on how someone is treating their child never mix and they will have a tainted view on your hubby forever. the fact that you are unemployed and he is supporting the both of you should be reason enough for them to shut the **** up and get down on their knees thankful you are marrying a man that is supportive and smart

sorry you are learning this too late but its done now so move forward and get thru the next 18 days knowing you are marrying the man you love and you will be working on a wonderful future together

soon it will be the 2 of you as your own family unit so hold onto the prize and be happy

sending hugs

2 years ago

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Blushing bee

cobalt 4/10/10

Are you sure you want to marry him? haha, I am joking.. sorry, it is late and I am a bit out of it.

I don't think you need to defend your relationship to anyone. Do not let them get to you. This marriage is between the two of you.

I know the budgeting thing seems like a big red flag to them, but to me it signifies responsibility. There are so many people who are unwilling to sit down and budget things. Especially with you out of work, it is a neccessity.

I have been laid off due to a company closure, things have been hard. We also have 2 kids so that makes it even harder! The stress of being unemployed can be heavy. There are feelings of guilt every time you spend a penny. There are also feelings of minor depression and worthlessness that come along with being unemployed, it's kind of hard to explain to someone who has not been in the same position.

Anyways, I just wanted to give you my empathy and I will cross my fingers that you are able to find a job that suits you perfectly and SOON!

Good luck

2 years ago

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Bumble bee

cheerful September 2009 - eloped

Aw, heck, that sucks. Sometimes when people care about you, they express it in the most hurtful way.

2 years ago

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Bee Keeper

His Barista September 4, 2010 Spokane, WA

I'm sorry! You shouldn't have to defend your relationship.

I think $100 is a lot if you are unemployed, so I think Mr. Panda gets HUGE props for planning ahead! Have you tried looking for something at least part time so you're not alone in the house so much?

I hope that you find something really soon! Job searching in this economy definitly sucks!

2 years ago

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Newbee

ayayaya 19th Sep 09 San Diego

I'm so sorry that you are facing stress like this just before the wedding when the wedding planning process itself can be very stressful... I agree with eloping. It's better not to discuss personal stuff like that unless you would like their opinion. I'm sure your family and friends just want you to have a happy marriage and hearing those things make them worried and wonder if you are happy with him...

My husband talks about our personal stuff with his family (He is not complaining, just talks about what is going with us) and I hate when they tell me "oh you shouldn't be doing this or that" because we have our own way to live our life and our personal stuff, especially money, is nobody's business. This might sounds harsh but I truly believe every household has their own way.

I wish you the best and I'm sure when they see you so happy on the special day, all of their worries will go away:)

2 years ago