(Closed) completely embarrassed… need someone to talk to

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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3760 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

You could’ve written at least 3 or 4 of those in the time it took you to write this post. Not trying to be snarky at all, just making a friendly suggestion. Why don’t you set aside a few minutes each night to knock off a few thank yous? It’s overwhelming to look at a stack of unwritten cards, but take a few off the top and get them out and you’ll be done in no time.

And good for you for busting your ass to get through school while working full(plus!) time!!

Post # 4
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398 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Not to be rude but start by getting off of wedding bee! Maybe do some while nannying, the people who got you gifts were most likely busy as well the least you can do is thank them. Id be completely embarressed, but i wouldnt let that happen.

Post # 5
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1254 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Yep, in the time it took to write this post you could have got a couple done. Probably could have knocked off a few more each time you and your hubby argued about it haha. -If you can do a few each day then you’ll be able to knock them of in no time!  And it will feel more manageable – you will only be facing doing 3 a day rather than sitting down to a pile of a 100 or something.

People do notice when thank yous don’t come or are late. We finally got a thank you card from a couple whose wedding we attending 14 months ago. And all it was was a generic photo of them with a typed thank you message on it, not hand written or personalised. 14 months – seriously!?

Post # 6
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727 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

In the time it took you to write this post, you could have written a couple of thank you notes. And you KNOW you have watched TV in the last 7 months. Come on.

Post # 7
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1194 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Don’t take it all on at once.  As the previous posters said, do a few instead of vegging out online or try to get three or four done during nap time/lunch time/whenever with your nannying charge.  If you look at it like “Holy hell in a hand basket, there are a zillions of these to do!” you’ll never get done.  But if you shoot for five a day, you’ll be there in no time.

Post # 8
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11760 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Just do a few a day. Once you get started, you’ll be fine. 

Post # 9
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396 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

+1 to prior posters.  Also, you can tell your husband that a random stranger from the internet says to get off his ass and write half the freakin’ notes.  No one cares if his handwriting is bad, but they do care about not being thanked.

Post # 10
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1094 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

*hug hug*

Deep breath! Don’t let yourself get caught up in feeling ashamed and embarressed. Those emotions won’t help you, only hurt you.

Focus on being determined.

Even if you just do one a day, every little step will make you feel that much better. 

Post # 11
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462 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

After a while, I think it’s too late and there’s no point. All or most of your guests have already moved their thoughts far away from your wedding and are now thinking about other things. I think sending out Thank You cards this far in the game wouldn’t help matters. And I would just think it’d be awfully weird. It’s like receiving a Christmas card 7 months after Christmas… If I had a received a Thank You card for something that happened 7 months ago. I’d be like “Okay? Why am I receiving a Thank You card for something that happened last year?” It would just make you look bad.

If anybody asks why you didn’t send them a Thank You card, let them know that you do appreciate there coming but working full-time and going to school full-time and other part-time jobs you really don’t have the time to do it.

Post # 13
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4315 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Venting is good for the soul.  And I doubt writing thank you letters is as theraputic is that.

Write a few a day and send them out as you write them.  That way, you’re unloading a little piece day by day.  Also, maybe stop viewing them as a chore, but a token of appreciation to your guests who were very generous to you.

Post # 15
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3645 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Husband’s hand writing is bad? Fine, he writes out what it should say on another piece of paper and you write it out in the actual card.

 

Just promise each other you’ll do 3 a night before bed. No bed until they are done. You’ll have them done in no time!

 

Plus, it’s always better to be late, then to never get them done. 🙂 

 

Post # 16
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606 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Sparkle Pony:  when you get around to doing them in the summer just explain in the note that you have been run ragged with work and school or whatever….I think people will still appreciate the thank you note..

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