(Closed) Completely hypothetical, of course. What would you do?

posted 6 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Now.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

What about the “if you don’t handle this now, I will” talk?  The rift will heal, but your credit won’t (or at least the consequences are different).

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@jjmomma: THIS. You need to get on top of it.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I probably would have stepped in a couple of months ago.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

@fabulouslyannonymous:  Hopefully the two of you can present a united front… good luck!

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

@fabulouslyannonymous:  *shaking fists*  It’s just wrong!!  What are your options as far as what you can do from your end?  I know there are bees on here with good financial advice (unfortunately, I’m not one of them, cc’s scare me)… I am so sorry you guys have to deal with this!

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I hope it wasn’ta large amount of money, because in this situation you usually have 2 options. 1) Get your money back and ruin the relationship with that family member. 2) Say goodbye to your money and save the relationship.

Lending money to family can be really difficult, and can hurt strong relationships, let alone one with an in-law you don’t care for to start with.

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I would have written that money off a long, long time ago and would not get involved.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

The BIL should be doing everything in his power to pay you back.  That may mean selling a car, picking up a part time job, or whatever.  If he doesn’t have it, then he can’t give it to you.  But, he should be trying to get it.  The fact that he is avoiding you two is bothersome.  What does SIL say?  Is she intimidated by her husband or will she stand up to him?  I hope it doesn’t work out this way, but it looks like you and SO are going to have to take a loss and NEVER lend money to them again.  

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Yikes. I’d get involved now, and in the future try to make yourself part of the process so that you can watch stuff like the more closely. Good Luck.

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