Post # 1
There has just been so much happening lately… None of which includes wedding planning, which I’m completely okay with. I really wish FI and I would just go to the courthouse and get married. Our tenative date is just over 9 months away and we haven’t booked anything.
We had looked at churches and venues and made our decisions. We just hadn’t booked them yet (small town, we were told 6 months in advance was fine). FI wanted to get back into the Catholic church before meeting with the priest at the church we wanted to marry in (his hometown church, which agreed to marry us despite not being parishoners and agreed to help us coordinate long-distance pre-cana through a local church in our town).
FI’s father passed and my grandfather is not expected to be here Christmas.
Call me a wedding-grinch but I just don’t think a wedding matters at this point. I want to care but I just don’t see the importance in having the wedding. Yes, I’d love to wear the dress I’ve already bought (should be here in about 5 months) but I’m just not finding myself all that excited about it.
I don’t know. I just have lost all interest in planning.
ETA: The church and the venue we chose remind FI very much of his father. The church was where the funeral was. The venue, a VFW-type of establishment, is where FI’s father was a longtime member. He doesn’t want to utilize either of these at this point, which I’m fine with. But it definitely means we’re back to square one with 9 months to go.
Post # 3
@youhavemyheart: Just came to give u an e-hug. Im sorry so much is going on. Life events remind me daily that while it may be an important day… its still only one day. Hugs to you and you FDH.
Post # 4
Deep Breaths! you are still so far away, you have more than enough time to get things done. i literally had to take a month break from planning i was going mad. In the beginning i really took into consideration a small wedding, just immediate family but i think had i followed through with it i would look back and regret not celebrating with my extended family and friends.
If you have made your decision on venues just book them! that def helps get the ball rolling with planning, once you have some things locked down other things fall into place.
I highly suggest marrying in the catholic church if that is something you and FI are passionate about. I am marrying a man who comes from a very catholic family and though i grew up catholic it intimidated me to no end because we just didnt practice like his family did. we still havent made the effort to go to chruch every sunday but it something we plan on doing in our future. that being said we have done our pre cana class and had a few meetings with the priest and i was axious for nothing! i actually enjoy it so much! its such a great experience to go through with your FI and i think it really has made our relationship stronger 🙂
Also, just dont worry about it so much, have fun with planning. I just want people to have a good time, and it to look nice… im not (too) concerned with the little details, if my flowers are a little deeper red than i expected…oh well