Post # 1
So my ex got married a couple weeks ago–now, I don’t have any feelings for him now, we were seriously a terrible couple, just not compatible at all. My FI is perfect for me, and I’m so excited to be marrying him.
Now saying that, my ex and his wife just posted pictures of the wedding on facebook, and I’m kind of mad because…her dress is just like mine!!! except better. Her veil is just like mine. except longer. They even had the same effing color scheme!!! Just a few months earlier. ughhhhhhhhhh.
This may be completely unreasonable and ridiculous, but I feel like people are going to think I’m copying her, even though I’ve had my dress and accessories for months. And her dress is just so beautiful. It almost makes me want to cry because it’s exactly what I wanted (hence why my dress is so similar), but her’s is just perfect. It’s exactly what I wanted, but because I mistakenly purchased a dress last summer on impulse, I couldn’t afford a new one other than this one I bought at a sample sale that is kind of what I want. I’ve been working with my seamstress to make it more of what i’m looking for–but now I feel like I can’t change it anymore or else it will be identical to my ex’s wife’s dress–and the rest of my ensemble already is so close to hers.
Again, I realize this is completely ridiculous, but I can’t help but feel kind of sad about it.
Post # 3
Well, at least you know intellectually that it’s not a reasonable thing to be upset about, but it doesn’t change the way you feel. If it makes you feel any better, the other day I saw a photo on Facebook of an ex with the girl he dated before me–mind you, we went out early in college. Kind of messy, but it’s long over and he and I even check in now and then. And here he is looking kind of like he’s back together with the girl he broke up with before he dated me, and it just made me so irrationally mad. I don’t think they’re even back together, but it really got to me.
And that does suck that their wedding seems so close to what you’re doing, including the dress. Just try to remember that your life is not theirs. Sometimes, I know it’s bad of me, but when something like that comes up, I like to try to remember that I don’t know the whole story. Maybe, I don’t know, she doesn’t get along with his parents. Maybe it was all very pretty, but they shouldn’t really have spent so much money. I don’t know, maybe that’s malicious of me, but sometimes it’s just good to remember that things that look perfect aren’t always so perfect. We’re all human.
Post # 4
Take it as a complement that he went and found someone just like you. LOL
Obviously he knew he lost a good thing.
Post # 5
Thanks, girls. I’m just irrationally frustrated because we all went to the same undergrad and so at least half my guests probably have at least seen facebook pictures of their wedding (if they didn’t attend themselves!). Super annoying.
Post # 6
1) Any woman at your wedding is going to realize you’ve been working on things for months, if not years, and will not think you copied. 2) No man is going to be paying so much attention to your dress and color scheme to notice similarities. Don’t let this get you down!
Post # 7
I can see why you’re frustrated, but I’m sure you’ll look amazing in yours! Whilst to some degree brides look similar, what everyone normally remembers is how happy they looked, not the dress details.
Post # 8
I can understand your frustration.. But your day will be perfect and it will be yours.. You dont need to worry about there wedding.
Post # 9
I get where you are coming from. Look around these boards on any given day, and women freak out that ANYONE’S wedding looks just like theirs. Now, of course it’s going to be doubly upsetting if an EX’S wedding was a carbon copy. The last thing you want is to be reminded of an ex on your wedding day.
Chin up, though. You are getting married a whole season after them. I bet you people will forget the fine details of the previous wedding. They will mostly pay attention to how happy you are, and the delicious food they get to eat. Color schemes tend to be forgotten. You’ll get your day, and when it comes around, i bet you wont even be thinking about what’s-his-name anyway.
Just try to enjoy what’s to come with your new husband.
Post # 10
I recently found my ex- new wife on fb and wonderful mountain man said ” he got the low rent model of you”. He also said “remind me if I ever meet him to say “thanks for screwing up”.