(Closed) Complicated family situation. Advice? (Very long story.)

posted 5 years ago in Family
  • poll: Invite grandfather's ex-wife or not?
    Yes, invite her. : (8 votes)
    80 %
    No, don't invite her. : (1 votes)
    10 %
    Screw all this drama. Elope! : (1 votes)
    10 %
    TL;DR : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    Member
    983 posts
    Busy bee

    If she never did anything to you, then why is that stopping you from inviting her to your wedding?  Be the bigger person and invite her. She saw you grow up, I’m sure she’d want to see you get married. ETA – they are all adults, I’m sure they can put their differences aside for 1 day for  your wedding.  

    Post # 5
    Member
    983 posts
    Busy bee

    My parents hated each other after their divorce, but they always sucked it up and were adults at family functions and never caused any drama. You’d be surprised how well adults act at events/functions like this. Sometimes in our minds, we get ourselve so worked up over something, and everything will turn out fine.  Invite her, obviously she means a great deal to you.  You may regret it if you don’t. 🙂

     

    Post # 7
    Member
    1177 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    People throw around the word disrespect very freely, don’t they? If you do something someone else doesn’t like, then you’ve “disrespected” them. It’s completely absurd.

    If this woman did something horrible to your grandfather (stole from him, cheated on him, abused him), then yeah, you’d be disrespecting him by inviting her. But the simple act of divorcing someone doesn’t erase them from the planet or from their relationships with other family members. So unless your grandfather has a really good reason that he can’t be at someone else’s social event with this woman for a few hours, I think you can invite her. Should you? It’s up to you. It doesn’t sound like you have anything against her, except a few third hand reports that she’s a drama queen. I’m surprised that if she’s such a drama queen you’ve never seen it in action, though. That doesn’t make it not true, just maybe a little less dire than you’ve been led to believe.

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