Complicated feelings about rings

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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8426 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@TripleNickle:  Why don’t you just show him a picture of the ring you want?  Not sure what else you can do.  I’m not the kind of girl that’s thought of a wedding/ring/dress since she was little, so I can’t really relate to that part.  Plus I’m a moissy fan, so cost wasn’t really an issue.

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@TripleNickle:  You’re going to be marrying this man, you should be able to tell him anything.  I’m sure it won’t be embarassing once the suggestion is out there.

Post # 6
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1849 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@housebee:  She’s already married, she’s just not been ‘ringed’ yet.

@TripleNickle:  You should feel absolutely no embarrasment about sharing your thoughts with your husband.  I would ask him for a budget, and then go from there. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

You’re embarrased to tell your husband what you like?- YIKES….

 

If he wants to get rings so badly I’m sure he would appreciate you telling him specifically what you want.

Post # 8
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8426 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Mrs Canuck:  Sorry, I meant that as a general saying, not OP specifically.

Post # 10
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613 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@TripleNickle:  Maybe you shouldn’t limit yourself to being a “kind of girl” that only finds it acceptable to like certain things. Humans are complex beings, they are allowed to like as many things as they want to and it doesn’t all have to fit into a stereotyped category.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@TripleNickle:  I totally get the conflicting feelings about wanting a really nice ring while also being cognizant of all of the money already being spent on really big stuff.

So, like other posters, I say TELL YOUR GUY ABOUT THE RING YOU WANT! It can be a springboard towards having meaningful conversation about rings, budget, etc., and you’ll probably BOTH be happy to have the OMG/Funny/Awkward/I-Can’t-Believe-I’m-Saying-This conversation.

I made a similar declaration to my FH and it was weird and slightly had me wondering “OMG, am I a bad person for wanting this?” but it worked out great.

Post # 13
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5483 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@TripleNickle:  You shouldnt be embarrassed! This is just an inspiration pic of the kind of style you like! I am sure you can find something similar in lots of different price ranges, so just show him and ask him what he was thinking. The fact that you got his ring is super cute and I don’t think this will be nearly the problem you are worrying about 🙂 It’s a happy time! If he doesn’t want to spend more than x amount, he’ll tell you, and you can go from there!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@TripleNickle:  OP, you have to realize that *you’re* the one that judges yourself for wanting this ring, your husband hasn’t indicated in any way that he’d see you in any less of a way for wanting a ring.  It’s ok to have different aspects of yourself that are at odds, we’re complex people! Accept this facet of your personality for what it is, a very normal and common desire for the ring that’s “just right” for you.  

p.s. that was my dream ring too! 

Post # 15
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347 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

He wants to buy you a ring, and you have a ring in mind–sounds like a perfect setup to me!  🙂  The set you like is gorgeous…and I can’t imagine it being 15k.  Show him this picture (you don’t have to go on about how you’ve had this image in your mind since you were 10) and tell him you like this look.  I wouldn’t stress about it–I bet he will be glad to buy you something you want!

Post # 16
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7997 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

I don’t understand why you’re freaking out over this. What the heck is wrong with wanting jewelry? I don’t get it.

If it runs you into the poor house, then that’s one thing.. but it doesn’t sound like that’s the case. And people who look down on others for having something sparkly on their finger really aren’t worth knowing. You can’t please everyone.

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