Post # 1
Help! I have two daughters from a previous marriage, my fiancee has one and we have a 3.5 month old together. We want to do a ceremony that includes all four kids and our parents. I have divorced (and remarried to other) parents. He has one set of parents. I dont want an hour long sand ceremony , it is really only going to be a small part of our ceremony. Also, we are doing a shadow box and will use two colors only. How should we go about doing this?
Post # 3
I don’t think parents are typically involved. Get a different color for each kid and you and your fiance. Typically these are poured at the same time, but since you have so many kids, I’d just go in order from youngest to oldest. So all the sand is in individuals jars/vases on the table. You invite the kids to come up and go get the baby. Then one of you pours in sand for the baby, then the next oldest can pour in their sand, etc. Then you and fiance can pour in your sands at the same time on the top.
Post # 4
@cantelily: I agree with the pp about leaving out the parents.
Your two daughters could pour one color. His child could pour the other color. You could then mix your two colors by pouring the sand back and forth between your two containers before you pour it into the box with your youngest.
Post # 5
I would have smaller containers [think votive candle holders], 1 for each of your children, and have each child pour it into the base of the ceremony container .
All of their sand will be the foundation that unites the two families.. followed by you & your husbands colors.
When we considered doing a sand ceremony, we were going to do this, except with our mothers. Give both of our mothers the same color sand to pour in, to represent our “foundation” and where we came from.. followed by our colors.