- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
Bless her heart, my Future Mother-In-Law has been like a mother to my fiances daughter. My Fiance has been a single dad since she was only months old, and his mother took over the role to co parent with him wile he worked etc. She’s a big girl now, 11, and for the last year or two has given me mothers day cards with pictures of me, him, and her as a family, expressed how happy she is to have a “normal” mom and dad situation etc. We are very close, attend all school functions together etc. She’s tired of feeling like an extra or tag-along with her cousins, she wants her own. He has been saving up for years to be able to buy a home and give his daughter all the things she deserved but couldn’t provide when she was younger as he was only 18 when she was born. This is a known fact among them.
So now, we have bought our house. I know very well the attachment that they have (FMIL and FIs daughter) as Ive raised my sister and I know the love you can have for a child regardless if it’s your own..but I’m seeing some signs that worry me. For instance, FIs daughter has never had her own room, she’s always had to share. As soon soon as he picked up his last bit of furniture from his old room, Future Mother-In-Law started making it his daughters room-the same day-which was also the day after WE started doing her room at our house. She knows her son intends on making the transition of her coming with us, so is this purposely counter acting what we’re doing? is she battling us?
Oh let me add because I feel it matters that she’s a mother of 5, with her youngest still at home. What I’m getting at is that even if you help your child raise his child, don’t you hope someday that they will be able to parent their own child? And after FIVE of your own, isn’t it kinda selfish to want to “keep” one rather than want for your own child to experience parenthood for themself? thoughts please.