- 8 years ago
- Wedding: December 2011
I’m writing today because I’ve been thinking a lot about the compromises I’ve made in wedding planning.
The first compromise I made was location. My FI and I are getting married in Custer State Park in western South Dakota. It’s an amazing location, please hear that. It’s beautiful and special and I have no doubt we are going to have a unique and special wedding. But (here’s the but), it was my third choice. I had two locations I really wanted, and they were about even in which I would have preferred. The first was my parents living room. Oh, how I loved the idea of getting married in front of the fire place at my parents house, getting ready upstairs with my sisters, coming down the staircase in my wedding dress, filling the living room with flowers. My parents house was originally my great-grandparents house, so it’s been in the family for 3 generations and has a lot of meaning. The living room, without the furniture, would have been big enough for a 40-50 personw wedding.
My other first choice was Naniboujou Lodge near Grand Marais, MN. http://www.naniboujou.com/
I have always wanted to get married there. It’s on Lake Superior, and I have pictured my ceremony on the beach, or in a church in town, and the reception in this incredible banquet room.
At first my parents said they were open to doing the wedding at their house, then a few months later they backed out. I understand. They aren’t interested in doing very much work for the wedding, and they’re paying for most of it, so there it is. No wedding at my parents house.
The second first location went out of the running because my FI wanted to get married in July or August and the lodge is only available for weddings in the Spring or Fall, because they’re full for the summer with guests.
At first I was so excited about my location in SD, but now I am just feeling like I compromised, and I’m not that excited about it.
Secondly, I didn’t really want to get married in July. July is hot, very hot, and I wanted cooler temps for my wedding. I’m a cold weather girl, and I’ve sort of always had a yen for a fall or winter wedding. Or at least May or June before it gets really hot. BUT, again my FI wanted a July or August wedding.
So, there it is. Am I just feeling sorry for myself? Should I just go with it? How can I make myself feel better? I think my desire to be a low drama bride has resulted in hurt feelings which may inturn make more drama. Lesson learned, I suppose.
Anyone feeling similarly?