Post # 1
Hi all. First of all I’d like to introduce myself. I’ve been lurking around these boards for a while now and you all seem so supportive of one another and helpful to each other. I can’t help but want to become a part of this family-like community. For the most part I think I may be sticking to the TTC boards but may pop into the wedding ones as well as I feel I can give pretty good advice… I’ve been happily married for 5 years this May 🙂
I have a beautiful 4-year-old daughter and found out I was 4w4d pregnant on Valentine’s Day. Sadly, I miscarried (naturally) at exactly 6 weeks. I was, and truth be stills till am, confused by it. I understand miscarriages are so common but I thought I had all the odds in my favor: I have had a successful pregnancy before, I am young, stay active, I don’t drink or do drugs, etc.
Needless to say Darling Husband and I are eager to get another one cookin’ soon. I have not yet had a menstrual cycle yet. My question for those of you who have miscarried before, how long did it take you to get pregnant again? Did you wait any number of cycles before TTC? Was it a healthy pregnancy carried to term?
Thank you all in advance!
I used paragraphs, sorry!
Post # 3
I haven’t been in your situation before, but I’m under the impression that miscarrying is extremely common.
One woman I know had a miscarraige, then one or two cycles later got pregnant and carried the baby to full term.
I hope you take the time to heal, emotionally and physically from this, before trying again. I wish the best for you!
Post # 4
@BearyLovely: I have never gotten my BFP, but I just wanted to give you my condolences. I hope AF comes soon and you get your sticky baby soon after!
Post # 5
I’ll share my experience with you, maybe it’ll help.
Feb 2005 – pregnant But miscarried at 9 weeks.
May 2005 – pregnant (almost immediately after my m/c) carried to full term, bouncing baby boy.
Dec 2006 – pregnant but miscarried at 7 weeks
March 2010 – pregnant but miscarried at 13 weeks
July 2010 – pregnant (almost immediately again after my m/c) miscarried again at 6 weeks
Jan 2011 – pregnant but miscarried at 7 weeks
Stoped TTC, Went the adoption route instead.
My pointit’s that a lot of times I got pregnant right away after a m/c. My doctor said this is common, he says it’s because during the m/c all the bad stuff gets flushed out and your body becomes its most fertile.
Hang in there, I hope it happens for you soon!
Post # 6
@Anise: that’s comforting, thank you for responding!
@RoyalLime: thank you so much! I’m hoping its sooner than later 🙂
@FortiesFlare: I am so sorry about all if your losses. Thank you for sharing your experiences with me. I suppose no one can predict the future and we must take each day as it comes.
Post # 7
Had a miscarrige at 10 weeks at the end of September last year. It was my first pregnancy. I bled off and on for the next 4 weeks, then had a normal period 6 weeks post MC. We started trying again immediately. My doctor told me there was no reason to delay. I got a BFP last week, after 4 cycles. Fingers crossed for this pregnancy.
Post # 8
I have no living children, but I’ve been pregnant 6 times.
Nov 2011 – bfp. miscarried in December (took 2 months to finish)
May 2012 – bfp. miscarried in June
June 2012 – bfp. miscarried in July
July 2012 – bfp. miscarried in August
* Started waiting until after septum removal surgery – until November *
November 2012 – bfp. miscarried in December
January 2013 – bfp. miscarried in February
And currently waiting AGAIN for surgery as we found out that I still have septum left.
So yeah, after miscarriage is often a very fertile time. For that matter, I’m the result of a mom who didn’t wait after a natural miscarriage – she was pregnant with me within 2 weeks of miscarrying.
As for miscarriage being against the odds for you, it still happens. It’s very common which just plain sucks. It’s against the odds for me as well – recurrent loss like I’ve experienced is only 1 in 100 – lucky me. I personally don’t see a reason to wait after a natural miscarriage as long as you are ready and willing to try again. If you need time to heal mentally after, take it for sure!
I just want to say that I’m sorry for your loss. It’s a hard thing and continues to be. The loss of a child. 🙁 It’s something no parent should ever have to live through.
Post # 9
I haven’t been in any of your shoes. We are ttc from April this year, I just wanted to say that women are truly incredibly strong…I am in awe of the ladies on here.
Post # 10
- Wedding: November 2007 - Radisson Hotel
@BearyLovely: I also had a perfect first pregnancy (she’ll be four in November). I got pregnant in September, and lost it a week later. I had to wait a cycle to try again and got pregnant again the first month after our “off” month. I found out at about 8/9 weeks that I had a missed miscarriage. I’m not starting to try again after losing our chance this last cycle (the month before that had been an “off” month to let my body regulate). So I got pregnant right away the first time, had no chance this time. Hopefully next month…
Good luck, miscarriages are terrible and no matter how common you know they are, they are horrible to go through.
Post # 11
@swissbride: Thank you so much for your support. I feel such a sense of comfort on here knowing there is so much support floating around.
@Mrs. Kiwi: I am do sorry for your losses. And I agree, miscarrying it’s and always will be an awful thing to go through no matter how many people it happens to.