Conception timing/honeymoon/alcohol…

posted 3 years ago in TTC
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

peachacid:  Go off BC now and use condoms or another barrier method of birth control. Problem solved. Plus it will give your cycles some time to regulate before you are ready to start trying and for you to understand how long your cycles last, when you ovulate, etc. and hopefully make TTC easier for you.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

yeah, that’s easy… condoms.  You seem very certain that conceiving will be a piece of cake.  I hope it works out that way for you.  For many women it can take a while.  Good luck.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

DH and I are planning to TTC in June or July as well. I’ve gone off my BC pills and we will just be using condoms until we are ready to start!

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

This is so similar to our TTC journey. We went to Europe for 6 weeks at the end of last year, and planned on TTC while there. But, we were going to stay on a winery in Italy for part of our trip, among other many very drinking friendly plans, so I obviously didn’t want to get knocked up too soon into the trip. I also didn’t want to go off the Pill in certain countries, as I wasn’t comfortable with the idea of having my period there (for example, we went to Morocco). I also wanted to be able to go to the thermal springs in Bath etc without worrying about my period. And I didn’t want us to have to use condoms. And if we didn’t end up getting knocked up the very first cycle, I didn’t want to get my period on our long haul flight back home. Basically, I wanted everything.

In the end, I went off the pill while we were staying on the winery (about half way through our trip). It meant I could drink guilt and worry free, as I would obviously not be knocked up yet. My period was due just after we got home, so I basically kept drinking till then.

In the end it was all a moot point, as I ended up having like a 45 day cycle, and didn’t get my period till a few weeks after we got home anyway. I’m guessing my body was still adjusting after the pill, and there’s a good chance I didnt even ovulate that cycle. Apart from the fact that we didn’t conceive on our holiday, the timing all worked out perfectly. I could drink whenever I liked, didn’t have to have my period when it was inconvenient for me, and basically just enjoyed the last of my drinking days and our once in a lifetime holiday.

If I were you, I’d go off the pill a week before your trip. That way, you would have your period before you go, and can just relax and enjoy the honeymoon. Depending how long your trip is, you may be back home by the time it’s time to test, which is around when a lot of women stop drinking anyway. Even if your body bounces straight back after years on the pill, that gives you at least 3 weeks of drinking time on your honeymoon.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

peachacid:  I am in the exact same position as you (teacher, summer vacation planning, etc.) What I’m doing is using Fertility Awareness Method aka charting and temping (there are 034820 posts about it on the bee or you can google) to control pregnancy. I’ve been charting my ovulation and it looks good so then we can time it in May.

FAM gives you an almost exact time frame (if youre ‘normal’) on when you ovulate so this can help you prevent or cause a pregnancy! I really suggest it. And of course you have read Taking Charge of Your Fertility, right? 🙂  Life changing. No condoms needed.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

peachacid:  with all the women struggling with infertility or TTC for 6+ months on these boards, I cringed when I read that you would consider getting pregnant quickly “just my luck” implying its a bad thing.  I agree it wouldn’t be ideal because of your trip and timing with your job, but I’d be a little more considerate of the women struggling to conceive who will read this post.

 It does take a while for most women’s cycles to return once stopping BC so the PP who suggested FAM hit the nail on the head. If you’re against condoms then learning to chart is so valuable when both TTA and TTC. Pick up a copy of the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility. It explains your cycle and how it relates to fertility signs that you can track in order to avoid having sex when you’re fertile or when to know the best time to BD when TTC.  Most bees here use the app Fertility Friend to track their charts.  We used FAM for years before we started TTC and never had an oops.  Hope everything works out for you. 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

peachacid:  Right, I completely agree with you that it would ruin your trip. I wasn’t upset by that point at all and if I were in your shoes I would feel the same way.  Women struggling with infertility may be offended by the way you worded it implying that you’d be upset by being blessed with a baby right away while others try for years.  I know that wasn’t your intention but this is a TTC board so you will run into women with all kinds of TTC journeys.  If you absolutely do not want to conceive before the trip then continue using BC until you’re ready for sure. 

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

peachacid:  Oh, two weeks is a perfect time to plan around. Hope you’re able to get the timing right to enjoy your honeymoon. Remember this may well be the last trip you guys have for ages, if everything goes to plan 🙂 it may even be a honeymoon baby!

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

peachacid:  I’m not religious either but after two back to back miscarriages I’ve come to consider conceiving healthy babies sort of a real life miracle  because so many factors have to go right in order to make a healthy human. Again, not saying I disagree with you. Everything you said is valid and I also agree it’s silly for women be “mad” at couples for conceiving quick. I’m just asking that you be more sensitive on a TTC board.  No one would be upset if you conceived quickly but they *may* be upset if you’re ungrateful about it. 

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