Concerned about friend–husband's issues are affecting her

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

That really doesn’t sound good. I think you should definitely try talking to her, and if she doesn’t do anything about it I would do even more. Is there anyone you can try to contact in the army for him? I know they have lots of programs in place to help their soldiers and it definitely sounds like he needs it, especially if his wife is being affected by him. With PTSD he could end up doing something to her or the children completely accidentally.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Do they live on base or off? Most bases have a family services dept that can help you.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@bmo88:  Hmmm, given that his condition could easily effect his work as a soldier, it should really be reported to whoever is in charge of him. At that point therapy would probably become mandatory. Definitely a weird situation. It seems like his own extreme disillusionment and fear has been transferred to her.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Army Bees – is there some way the OP can report her concerns anonymously to his superiors to make him get help? Once he starts getting help it should be easier to help her.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

@bmo88:  I would contact Family Services. See if you can report anonymously, but if not it would be better that you use your name as long as it gets them help.  how would you feel if he commits suicide or kills your friend? Contact them ASAP!!

 

Any military Bees with better advice?

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Bumping to see if the afternoon crowd has any ideas.

Might want to post soemthing on the Military board

Post # 10
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Helper bee

@bmo88:  I feel like you have a legitimate reason to be concerned.

Yes, the world can be a dangerous place, but I feel like your friend and her husband are taking it to the extreme.

I live in TX, so owning a gun is no big deal. However, him preventing her from getting a job and personal help is my biggest concern. It’s not healthy to prevent someone from seeking outside stimulation if they feel they need it. The government will always have their pros and cons, but I think he PTSD is really the underlying cause in this complete shift.

Typically individuals with PTSD are very resistant to treatment, until another traumatic experience occurs. Both of my parents are former air-force, and we’ve had numerous family friends come down with the condition. I’d either have a sit down talk with her, and address your concerns. If this doesn’t work I would report this to his higher command. Active members with untreated PTSD are a risk to others and themselves; they can have problems regulating their actions and behavior due to improper processing of mental stimulation. 

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