I was SOOO NOT a DJ person but ended up finding a DJ that we really clicked with. I found a few things were cheesy but those moments compared to our first dance, the shout dance party, or the take me home tonight group love session, were minute.
If you are still not convinced to at least give some DJs a try here are some ideas to keep your guests occupied:
1. Photobooths: They are interactive and a fun distraction for guests
2. DIY Bar: whether it be a mash potato bar, french bar, candy bar, ice cream sundae bar, etc. these types of stations require guests to engage in the meal and hopefully will keep them coming back for more
3. Toasts: Line up a few meaningful and/or funny toasts (3-5) but be careful to ensure people don’t talk too long and those you ask are engaging speakers in order to draw guests in. Toasts can backfire on you and cause the wedding to seem to drag on if the speakers aren’t well received.
The bride and groom can even give a thank you toast or toast to one another.
4.Bouquet: Instead of tossing the bouquet, maybe present the bouquet to a special couple (longest married, those with closest wedding date to you, etc) and give a little toast to them
5. Your Love Story: Consider telling your love story from each of your prospectives. This is a great way for distant family or newer friends to see how your relationship developed. It is even better if you don’t share with each other beforehand. You can each tell your own version or give your versions to a trusted friend to entertwine and share with your guests.
6. Love Notes: Have anniversary cards laid out on each table with pens for the guests at that table to sign (The envelopes should be labeled with the table number). The cards are then given to the bride and groom and opened on each wedding anniversary that cooresponds to the table number so Table 1 gets opened on your first anniversary, etc.
7. Giveaways: If your centerpieces can be given away turn it into a production. You could give them to the first guests to RSVP or you could have someone at the table volunteer a dollar to pass around the table while music is played. When the music stops the person you has the dollar keeps it and the person you gave the dollar up bought the centerpiece.
These are just a few ideas that you could definitely run with and customize for your own event. I would say though if you are still against a DJ I would look into appointing someone the MC who can help direct guest’s attention to important events such as when to get dinner, that the cake cutting is taking place, etc.