Condo living, complaining neighbor… HELP!!

posted 2 weeks ago in Legal
Post # 2
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6048 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

macpartyoftwo :  Start calling and reporting him for domestic violence.

Honestly though, this is one of those things you have to chalk up to being the short end of the stick when you live in shared housing situations. Condos, apartments, townhomes…they all come with this problem. It sounds like you’ve got an extreme neighbor and it’s likely not going to get any better. You can either start reporting him for noise or find a new place to live. If you think it’s going to get to that point where you will get kicked out you should probably just start looking and move on your own. You definitely don’t want a black mark on your references in the future.

Have you talked with management about the issue? Explained to them that the hours he’s complaining about are hours you’re at work and not even home to make the noise? Tell your side of the story.

Post # 3
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5105 posts
Bee Keeper

macpartyoftwo :  Are you able to move out?   And the fact that the landlord isn’t actually checking to see if you are making noise is ridiculous.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

I would start leaving my phone of voice record about the time he usually is complaining about noise so that you can prove he is lying. Or you could also fight fire with fire and call the domestic abuse line and report him. Say you heard him treatening his wife and what sounded like hitting her. He is an ahole

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Start filing harrassment complaints against him with the landlord and police.  Everytime he calls in something bullshit, file a counter complaint for harrassment.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

macpartyoftwo :  Is he by chance a renter? If so, you can get his landlord in on what’s been happening. To add to other PP’s suggestions, I’d document everything in a notebook with dates and times. Perfect example, you were sleeping when a noise complaint came in. Do you own your own place? Can you check with the HOA? There have to be complaints made against him. Could be why the last people moved out.

Post # 7
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445 posts
Helper bee

Is there any written documentation from the police that they found nothing when he called them on you? 

Post # 8
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Blushing bee

macpartyoftwo :  can you set up a camera or baby monitor that records sound? That way you’ll have proof next time he tries to make a compliant. 

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Did the police write up a report indicating that he made a complaint when you were sleeping?

Is it possible that someone else is making noise and he thinks that it is you? I just find it odd that someone would keep making complaints if there was no noise at all. Though the guy sounds unhinged, so it’s possible.

I would definitely set up a camera or recorder that records the time to show that you aren’t making any noise if he tries another complaint. 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

You and your husband need to go talk to management in person. Get them on your side, and play the victim. Tell the story about the police. Say something along the lines of, “Maybe there’s a chance he’s hearing noise from someone else’s apartment somehow? But I just know that most of the time I’m asleep when he complains.” 

And ask them specifically, “How should I handle this? He’s about to get me fined for something I haven’t done, so do you want me to obtain proof somehow?” They won’t fine you after that. Just be calm and kind and genuine, so that they know there’s no way you’re the types to make such noise.

He sounds like a horrible person. I’m so sorry you’ve gotta deal with that. 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Second PP. You need to talk to management and share your side. Ask them what you can do to resolve the situation and share all the things you shared with us about what you’re doing, how he’s responded, etc. It’s their job to mitigate problems in the building, so it’s worth it to do what you can to have them help you mitigate this one.

Although, management companies can be terrible at their job. If they’re unresponsive to you or would rather fine you than deal with him, I’d say you definitely need to start recording your home while you sleep. It’s weird, but that way the next time he calls, you’ll have some kind of proof.

Post # 12
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Honey bee

You need to counteract this and not be a sitting duck.  This jerk is creating a case against you not only with your landlord but with the police!  As others have mentioned you need to document to provide evidence that supports you are not doing what the complaints suggest.  You need to have a meeting with your landlord and quite possibly contact the police regarding the harassment you are experiencing.

Post # 13
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Blushing bee

I agree with all of the recording your home posts, honestly just a small camera in the living room should be plenty just to prove you guys aren’t going crazy at the time of the calls! Also, I would politely ask management if anyone else has complained about your family, this way you can narrow it down to him placing the blame on someone else being loud, or him just being crazy. Noise complaints almost never come in singles, so if he is the ONLY one complaining, maybe this will open their eyes to the fact that he’s being crazy

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

He’s basically preemptively accusing you of what he’s doing, and involving the police to counteract your strength as posssible witnesses to his violence. 

Its very cheap to set up a camera and there’s no better evidence when you’re telling the truth. So start recording every night, without fail. 

Record him yelling at his wife. 

Record the silence in your home. 

Keep and label all of the digital files. 

Make a log of the files by date and incidence. 

The next time he calls the police on you, he will be very sorry. 

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