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I'm. not. in. love. with. my. dress. I just had my second fitting and I'm liking it better each time, but truthfully, my overall feeling about it is mostly blah.

I just wanted to share. And maybe get some sympathy. Or commiseration from other brides who have not been head over heels for their dresses.

sorry you are feeling this way :( what about it don't you love?

I felt that way for a long, long time.

In fact, I hated my dress so much that my husband (fiance at the time) almost called off the wedding because we had a HUGE fight about whether or not I could just get a different one that I did love.

Shortly after that argument, I decided I needed to figure it out.  My dress was 4 hours away, so I drove to see it and see what I didn't love about it.  After having it altered (and getting over the fact that another girl who was about 100 pounds heavier than me AND pregnant was wearing a dress almost identical to mine), I really fell pretty hard for it.  I stopped looking at it like it was the fat dress (when I bought it I was 50 pounds heavier than on our wedding day) and it was only $100 (I love a good bargain!), so basically what I'm saying is, I fell for that dress.  And every time I look at my wedding pictures, I realize more and more that it was the dress for me.  My MIL kept assuring me that it was perfect, but I never felt that it was until I looked at my wedding pictures.

I can't say I ever loved it, but recently my house had a plumbing issue and flooded the room where my dress was hanging in the closet and when I realized that my dress might be ruined I cried and cried.  Luckily dry cleaners can work magic! 

So, even if you don't love your dress, I hope that when you look back on your wedding day you feel the same sentiments that I do.  Even if you don't love it, hopefully it's perfect for you and your wedding.

I'm not in love with my dress.  I just keep telling myself it's my FI that I'm in love with and that's all that matters.  I also keep listing the things about my dress that I like and that I don't like and the likes always outweigh the don't likes (there was a reason I bought it afterall).

Thanks, ladies. I appreciate both the sympathy and solidarity.

Yes, @daydreamwander, that was me from the FMIL dress post. I still wish FMIL's dress didn't have the similar ruching at the waist, but have gotten over my being upset at that, especially since everyone on these boards told me the dresses are very different.

So, I will be honest: I never really wanted the white(ish) wedding dress but caved to family expectations. I think that has a lot to do with my blahness. My ambivalence is also about the body issues that Miss Daschund has been writing about recently. I'm a plus size gal and a lot of wedding fashion does not flatter me. The wedding dress search brought up all my issues.

I have six weeks until the wedding and have sunk so much money into this dress that I'm going to stick with it. I don't hate it. I just don't love it. And I think I've bought the "I'm supposed to be ectastic about my dress or else I'm doing something terribly wrong" message.

I like michelle86's suggestions of listing what I like and what I don't like. Because after all, there are reasons I agreed to sink so many student loan payments into a garment I will wear once.

I love the way my dress plays up my curves. I'm busty and hippy, but with a relatively small waist and the dress makes me very hourglass-like.

I like the simplicity of my dress. Other than the asymetrical ruching of the bodice, the dress is very simple and feels very elegant to me.

I like the corset back of the dress. I stand straighter and like that I can get the dress to mold to me.

I like that the dress is different from what I've seen on many brides in my family and friends circles. This is especially true since I've had sleeves added to the dress (my biggest body issue is my fat, flabby upper arms. I haven't worn a sleeveless top since I was 16 and my mother told me I had "grandma upper arms.")

I don't like the neckline of the dress. I almost always wear a v-neck, but this is a strapless dress to which some very lovely sleeves have been added, so now it has more of a square neck line. I don't love the way that photographs on me, but I suppose I can talk to my photographer about that.

I don't like that with the bustier and corset back, I get back cleavage. I didn't notice this until my friend took a picture in the dressing room at my fitting the other day. I happen to be a lot fuller on my back that my stomach, so I'm not sure I see a way around it.

I like the lines of the skirt, which to me, look even better now that I've had the train of the dress chopped off.