Thanks, ladies. I appreciate both the sympathy and solidarity.
Yes, @daydreamwander, that was me from the Future Mother-In-Law dress post. I still wish FMIL’s dress didn’t have the similar ruching at the waist, but have gotten over my being upset at that, especially since everyone on these boards told me the dresses are very different.
So, I will be honest: I never really wanted the white(ish) wedding dress but caved to family expectations. I think that has a lot to do with my blahness. My ambivalence is also about the body issues that Miss Daschund has been writing about recently. I’m a plus size gal and a lot of wedding fashion does not flatter me. The wedding dress search brought up all my issues.
I have six weeks until the wedding and have sunk so much money into this dress that I’m going to stick with it. I don’t hate it. I just don’t love it. And I think I’ve bought the “I’m supposed to be ectastic about my dress or else I’m doing something terribly wrong” message.
I like michelle86’s suggestions of listing what I like and what I don’t like. Because after all, there are reasons I agreed to sink so many student loan payments into a garment I will wear once.
I love the way my dress plays up my curves. I’m busty and hippy, but with a relatively small waist and the dress makes me very hourglass-like.
I like the simplicity of my dress. Other than the asymetrical ruching of the bodice, the dress is very simple and feels very elegant to me.
I like the corset back of the dress. I stand straighter and like that I can get the dress to mold to me.
I like that the dress is different from what I’ve seen on many brides in my family and friends circles. This is especially true since I’ve had sleeves added to the dress (my biggest body issue is my fat, flabby upper arms. I haven’t worn a sleeveless top since I was 16 and my mother told me I had “grandma upper arms.”)
I don’t like the neckline of the dress. I almost always wear a v-neck, but this is a strapless dress to which some very lovely sleeves have been added, so now it has more of a square neck line. I don’t love the way that photographs on me, but I suppose I can talk to my photographer about that.
I don’t like that with the bustier and corset back, I get back cleavage. I didn’t notice this until my friend took a picture in the dressing room at my fitting the other day. I happen to be a lot fuller on my back that my stomach, so I’m not sure I see a way around it.
I like the lines of the skirt, which to me, look even better now that I’ve had the train of the dress chopped off.