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It seems so overwhelming sometimes, doesn't it? You CAN pull this off. Just try and do only one major task at a time. You are likely to disagree with your family or FI on some things - but that is just part of the wedding planning process.

I couldn't afford a planner (which would have been a godsend), but if you can squeeze it in your budget, that would make things easier! A friend of mine had a planner and she said it made things SOOOO much easier.

wedding planning IS very very stressful especially when you are still trying to find vendors. but don't worry, you'll feel a lot better after you've finalized your vendor list :)

like other suggested, you can always hire someone. i am on a tight budget and since i've already found most of my vendors, so i won't hire a wedding planner, but i am considering a DOC.

I HATE party planning, so one of the first things I did was hire a wedding planner - fortunately I hired one who wasn't offended by my constant searching for the best price on anything, from the pointsettias for the ceremony decor to the photographer.  The one thing I've stayed out of entirely is the reception decor and my planner is a decorating genius!

Maybe to relieve your stress you can figure out the one thing you are really worried about (invitations, reception decor etc) and hire someone to do that!  It will take a good chunk of the pressure off you and let you enjoy the process a little more.

I've never so much as planned a party, much less a wedding, so I felt this way at first. But it's really not so bad. You read books and websites and learn the right questions to ask. You call up vendors and one or two jump out at you as being a great fit. You get ideas from friends, blogs, or sometimes out of the blue. And it comes together in the end.

A couple of things I've learned so far are: 1) it's highly unlikely you'll avoid upsetting your mom, mother in law, or both at some point over wedding decisions - it comes with the territory. But it certainly doesn't mean your relationship will be harmed long-term. 2) You don't need to have a grand vision and know how every element fits in that vision. If you do, that's great, but if not, your wedding won't be any worse for it. Guests will care about their convenience, about the food and music, but certainly not about whether each element of the day fits into a theme or vision.

Good luck!