Post # 1
Girls I have a confession to make. It’s a deep dark shameful secret. I’ve kept it from you because you are all so on top of things that you make me pale in comparison.
I *just*, 2 nights ago, finished my last wedding thank you notes. There were 4 left. They were those hard ones, where you either didn’t know what the person got you, had complicated issues to deal with, or where you had to respond to the group of 5 people who all chipped in to get you one bamboo plate (total cost $4.75). How do you thank a group of 5 for a gift that cost them less than a dollar each?! (I still laugh about that one!) The thank you cards to each of them cost more per card!
My goal was to get them done before Lemon arrived, and it looks like I’ve barely succeeded!
Anyway, I’ve unburdened my heart to you… So what is your deepest darkest wedding secret? Do tell! Make me feel better!
Post # 3
Haha, that’s great. At least you didn’t put the rest off until you figured out the few! FSIL was determined to send all of hers out at the same time, so they were all really late.
My confession? I’m in a really deep hole with FMIL in regards to our officiant! Years ago I was still a strong Christian and the wedding came up in conversation. I mentioned that I wanted to have my uncle officiate since he is a Lutheran pastor. She was a little upset that our church’s pastor wouldn’t be performing the ceremony, but understood and basically said, “well, since he’s family, I guess it’s okay.”
Well, fast forward to today… neither R nor I are Christians. My uncle would probably still officiate for us, but he would not do so without God in the ceremony. We’re just not comfortable with that, so we’re not asking. But we have no idea how to tell FMIL so we’re just kind of smiling and nodding!
Post # 4
My secret is that I didn’t write one thank you note!
DH wrote them all because he has the “pretty” handwriting and I write like a mad scientist!
Post # 5
Yay, someone else posted!!! I was getting a little nervous there.
@Lily- we had the same issue. I had promised my youth pastor years ago that he could officiate. He’s a second father to me, so it made sense. Suffice it to say, there was probably more God in our ceremony than suits either of us, but I couldn’t have imagined anyone else officiating.
I imagine it would have been very hard to unask him, so I feel your pain!!! Best of luck and hopefully you find someone who reflects your values!
Post # 6
I dont like how one of my BMs looks in her bridesmaid dress.. her ‘girls’ are little more exposed than the liking of my christian parents. I havent said anything. Im not going too… but I did buy them all a shawl just so she can cover up a little and i used the excuse it could be cold 🙂
Post # 7
Thanks, luckily we never asked my uncle, so it’s just FMIL who needs “untelling” I guess – unfortunately, it’s not going to go over well.
@MightySapphire – darn, I wish R had better handwriting than I do! That sounds like a sweet deal.
Post # 8
@lily- that makes it way easier 🙂
@MS- you are one lucky duck
@ccrane- at least there was a plausible solution, because that could be a pretty yikes situation!
Post # 9
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
That makes me feel a bit better about some of the really, really surprisingly cheap gifts we got. 😉 I would have prefered a card to 1/5 of a $5 plate.
Post # 10
These are all too funny. I don’t think I have anything major to confess, unless “bumping” your own threads counts
Post # 11
I’m embarassed to say… one day I got so frustrated with my FIs laissez-faire attitude towards wedding planning that I told him to that he needed to “suck it up and help more.” I went on to say that “Weddings are not fun for the bride and groom – they aren’t supposed to be. The honeymoon will be fun – but the reception, forget having fun there! We’re hosting the event – and there is a lot going on.”
In retrospect, I probably shouldn’t have said that (and eventually apologized)… He was a little taken aback by that comment, and sometimes I think he still remembers it but doesn’t say anything. (I was frustrated in part because I really wanted a 30 person morning wedding followed by a brunch and he wanted a 120 person evening wedding with the DJ and alcohol, etc. He won.)
Post # 12
CC, I think you might want to rethink your plan. Your bridesmaid may be really uncomfortable and the gown may not be fitting correctly. I have a friend of similar size who ended up in a gown that wasn’t fitted correctly. She didn’t complain and so she spent the wedding feeling like she was exposing herself… and covered up asap after the ceremony. Looking at all the maids in their gowns could show you that they aren’t fitting that bridesmaid correctly. (A properly fit gown will look like it hits her at the same body point as another girl even if one is small and petite, another tall and curvy, and a third medium and average in size… I don’t mean their bodies will look identical…. but the coverage should be about the same. If the gown has a waistband you should be able to see it on all the girls. If her chest measurements deem that her gown should have a couple more inches to be appropriate then you need to be talking to the shop.
Post # 13
I’m hoping for a bunch of declines!! Is that awful or what? I’d love for everyone to come, but our list just got out of hand… I don’t want our venue to be crammed.
Also, I stalk my registry. Bad girl.
Post # 14
We’re getting married in the town FI is in college at. I went to college six hours away. I resent that all his friends will be already be here, and that some of mine are unlikely to make the trip.
Post # 15
We aren’t serving alcohol, not only because my FI doesn’t drink, but because my aunt’s are all crazy when they are drunk, and we are American Indian, and I don’t want FI’s Euro-American family to look at us as a bunch of drunk Indians!
Post # 16
Me too, BlueShoes! Our guest list expanded quite quickly and now I would not be too disappointed to see some “regretfully declines”.