Confession-What don't you like about your in laws?

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

First my FIL: He is the number one trapper in Utah… and I HATE IT! I think its horrible and disgusting and my DH was brought up doing it and we used to have fights about it ALL the time. Thats it for FIL.

 

MIL: Really, its easier to name what I DO like about her…. I like her cooking, I like her sister, her mom her daughter and her son… lol. I like that she is helpful. So yeah, much easier to list what I like then what I dont…. LOL! 

 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I guess if I had to pick something…….My in-laws are perfect execept for that they’re REALLY conservative and FI and I are VERY liberal.  FI and I always exchange silly little smirks when we go over to their house and Fox news is on.  But we combat that by not discussing politics with them. Otherwise, I could’t have asked for better in-laws.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

The only problem I have with FMIL is simply a difference in culture. I grew up in a very hands-off Chinese family. FMIL is the stereotypical Italian mother – overbearing, protective, etc. etc. I’m not used to it and I’m still not after almost 5 years! She can be very difficult to deal with (FI even admits that) so it’s been up and down.

I do like her, though, and she means well. I’m just not used to it.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

FMIL believes and has repeatedly told FI and me that we’re going to hell because we’re not Christian. Not a great conversation to have lol.

ETA: FFIL is EXTREMELY hard to please. He came over to our house a few weeks ago for the first time and FI cooked, he basically said “Meh” to everything :/

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

My only issue with my(soon to be) in-laws is every time we go to visit them, his mom makes us sleep in separate rooms because we’re not married yet, even if we’re not in her house!

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

They are good people, but so opinionated.

Post # 9
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371 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2000

@Daizy914:  

My father-in-law is too stubborn to get the hearing aid he desperately needs. Everyone has tried everything. Reasoning with him (“glasses are the same thing! A bit of an assist for a sense that’s not working its best”) to talking to him in a normal volume to prove to him that the people he thinks are speaking clearly are the ones who bother to yell, to mentioning the hearing test they did, to showing him the immense strides made in the size of the technology, to one daughter straight up saying she won’t visit until he gets one.

I know my husband is upset that in this time of life when their relationship, mano-a-mano should be deepening, when he is longing to ask the questions he never did, to benefit from his wisdom as a man in a 50 year marriage… we just don’t go to visit. It’s just too frustrating when you truly don’t understand why this man is willing to drive everyone away to avoid something that no one will even notice once he has it, other than we’d all have him fully back in our lives again. It’s so, so sad.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

this is super silly, but they like to eat ‘family style’ at restaurants. that’s fine sometimes, but other times they’ll order like, 3 mains for the table and then everyone has a little bit of everything – but i often don’t like something they pick so i get 1/3 of a main, when if we’d ordered like everyone else at the restaurant i could have had my own dish! i’ve gone home hungry before from an amazing restaurant where i would have loved the other 2/3 of the dish haha. 

his mother can be overbearing – and isn’t as respectful of our space/relationship/privacy as my parents are. i find that hard, she sometimes acts as though she is owed an explanation to certain things, and i don’t think she is. 

they’re also much less logical than my parents – i honestly find it hard to explain/express myself to them sometimes because i can easily say x, y, z to my parents and they get it!

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I am very fortunate as far as in-laws go.  My only gripes are MIL talks ALL.THE.FRICKEN.TIME. and shes very opinionated.

My FIL is so anxious and has to have everything planned down the the second many months ahead of time.  I am a planner but good lord a little spontanaiety never killed anyone!

The collective gripe is that they feel it is necessary to come to our house EVERY.THREE.WEEKS. and they stay ALL DAY.

Other than that I get along great with everyone 🙂

Post # 12
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754 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

“If you dont have anything nice to say, dont say anything at all” doesnt seem to be their motto… it can be frusterating to listen to.  Sometimes i want to just scream out “BE HAPPY!!!!!!”

Post # 13
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545 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

That they live too far away. 🙁

Post # 14
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3097 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - A court...

Mil is always “borrowing” money & babies dh & fil is loud. 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@Daizy914:  OMG! I feel you on this one! We always have the food-centric holidays over at the future in-laws’ house and FMIL does 90% of the cooking but SHE. CAN’T. COOK. I swear the woman doesn’t season anything. 

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@peonyinlove:  Oh gosh. That family style eating at restaurants would drive me nuts. I didn’t know people even did this!

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