Confessions of a Ticked Off Wedding Guest

posted 3 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
222 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I’m sure when your friends picked out their wedding days they didn’t do so because it would be an inconvience to their guests. They probably picked where their wedding was going to be because it means something to them, and it’s their day 🙂

Post # 4
738 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@MexiPino:  That stinks but as someone contemplating the logistics of having a wedding I can tell you that there is absolutely no way for them to make every guest happy.

Post # 5
3635 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@MexiPino:  Word.

We still haven’t officially heard that the wedding we were save-the-dated for on Thanksgiving (the whole 4-day weekend) on a cruise is off.  Haven’t received an invitation, either, but still have the “book your rooms now!” on the fridge.  Did hear at one point that the wedding was before the cruise maybe?  I’m not paying over $1500 to vacation with you because you don’t want to pay for a reception.  I also would have been really pissed if I did book the cruise to show up and there not be a damn wedding.

Post # 6
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

Oh, man! First a Brideslave, then a Thursday wedding?! Geeze! Way to make it hard on a gir;’s finances!

Post # 7
3948 posts
Honey bee

As someone who had a “semi-destination” wedding (aka-not far enough to fly/several hours driving for guests) I don’t see what the issue is. If you have friends/family across the country you can’t please everyone so you just need to pick a location.

Now if they served cold food, or chose a hotel that was $4000/night then I could see why you would be annoyed. But just because it’s in an inconvenient location for you doesnt mean they are being rude.

Post # 8
112 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Whenever someone posts asking about a wedding on a “non traditional” day, most people usually say, sure, no problem but don’t get mad if people can’t attend.  I personally would never have a Thursday wedding because I actually want people to come and would fully expect my guest count to drop in half if I did so.  With that being said – they know what they got into by choosing the date.  Don’t go.  Get them a really nice gift, wish them well, but times are tough and it’s not reasonable as an out of town guest to make it on a Thursday.  Don’t fall for their tears or guilt trips – sometimes you just have to learn how to cry harder and make THEM feel guilty instead of the other way around.

Post # 9
2052 posts
Buzzing bee

@MexiPino:  YEP get your point completely. 

My BFF from HS had a semi destination wedding as well (3 hr drive) and ON MY BIRTHDAY lol.  Had all of these plans that really didn’t go well with my school schedule (She was already done), and honestly we haven’t really kept in touch much.  She moved 12 hours away to a different state which I am sure contributed to it but I do have ill feelings.

It’s like if someone calls you and they make a big deal about you being the 2nd MOH and then say ‘Oh BTW, the date I want is your Bday, is that cool?’ WHAT ARE YOU GONNA SAY NO?!?!  ugh!

Post # 10
3570 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Having a wedding on a thursday is ridiculous.  That’s no way to be a good host!

Post # 11
126 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@MexiPino:  god could have wrote this thread…just booked 2 weeks annual leave from work and spent 1000euro for flights for a destination wedding…only allowed stay at the destination a max of 7 nights as they are using the location as their honeymoon!!! Oh and coz there are no direct flights- so no direct flights and fligyts only available on certain days so hence having to take two weeks off….gerrr!! 

Post # 12
1634 posts
Bumble bee

@MexiPino:  Oh man, I understand your pain, thats brutal! Can you please write this in a letter to my FI? He doesnt seem to think that inconvencing people is a big deal “It’s our day, we can do what we want” to which a reply “within reason, you butt” lol. I head him off at the pass, it’s no problem, but really!?! Your points are duly noted, I am doing my darndest to ensure that our wedding isnt a hardship for anyone 🙂 Sounds like you have great friends, who are totally worth the extra days vacation though!

Post # 13
4760 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@MexiPino:  All I’m saying is when did it become perfectly normal to totally inconvenience your guests?!

When this became the ultimate motto:

“It’s your day you do what you want.”

I always say it’s not YOUR freakin day if you’re having guests!  It all pisses me off from not giving your guest’s +1, to selecting which kids you like at your wedding adn which ones you don’t, to saving 1000 dollats to have your wedding on a Thursday.

I want to shake these people and let them add all the days their guest’s need to take off vs the pay these people loose and it’ll topple their savings.  It is rude as hell.

Post # 16
1526 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@MexiPino:  OMG! I hate midweek weddings.  Sure we got married on a sunday, but it was memorial day weekend so 90% of guests didnt have work on Monday. 

One of my friends got married on July 1st this year.  Thats right – it was the Monday on the week of July 4th.  And it was in Alabama…not the best place to be in July.  AND the worst part was 3 people out of her bridal party and her godparents work in the same company that had a shutdown the following week.  We asked her to change the date from July 1st to July 8th but she wouldnt.  That was incredibly inconvient of her – and as a PP post said – its not just your day. 

It also really bothers me when people have really long gaps between their ceremony and their reception.  We went to one wedding where the church was over an hour away from the reception hall…and there was a 4 hour gap.

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