Post # 1
The wedding is 2 days away and I just had a fight with my FI about groomsmen attire again. It appears that my FI did not communicate with the guys about the shirt and tire color. I initially wanted them to wear black suit, my FI didnt tell the guys. So I settled for a dark color suit, as long as they have same tire color. But now that doesnt work either. So while I have the girls wearing the same dress, the guys attire doesnt match, and I dont even know what they are wearing. And when I told my FI, he showed attitude again “why do u want to control what people wear?”
Well, because it is my wedding and they are in the bridal party. Isn’t that a good enough reason? One of the guys asked me today what tire they should wear. So obviously my FI does not give a flying f about this. Thats why he didnt tell the guys what to wear. I am already stressed out about the wedding and this just makes me want to cry. I dont think that he cares about the wedding, at all. I dont even know what my wedding cake is going to look like since it is a free cake coming from the venue 🙁
I kept telling him how it looks like, and my FI said he would ask. But right now he rather plays cards with his friends than sitting down and talking to me about the plan and other things. I am so upset. I feel like I am the only one that worry.
i would call about the wedding cake if I spoke the language 🙁 Now I am so regret having my wedding oversea. I just want to cry
Post # 3
I think it is important to remember that it is your FI’s wedding too and if he doesn;t care what his groomsmen where then that shoudl be ok.
I think you need to just let the cake thing go. You have choosen to accept a free cake and I guess that means giving up control on what it looks like. Does it really matter? it is just going to get eaten and be pooped out.
Focus on the important things. You are marrying the person you love and will be surrounded by friends and family that love and support you. At the end of the day what more could you ask for.
Post # 4
@goldfish2308: Eh, it’s too late to worry about now. No point in wasting your energy. And in the words of a Bee, spotted on another thread:
“Boys are dressed by their mothers. Men dress themselves.”
You just worry about your girls; let HIM worry about the guys. It’s his day too.
Post # 5
To be more accurate, they are in the wedding party. They are not in the bridal party.
They are groomsmen- meaning, they attend the groom.
Too late to be worrying about this. If it was that important to you, it’s too bad you and FI didn’t talk about the ties, or shop for and gift them to the groomsmen earlier.
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2014 - Banff, Alberta
My FH was a little confused about controlling birdal wear too. “You expect them to wear the same suit?!” Um ya. But okay I let that one slide they can all wear black suits. But they HAVE to wear the exact same tie and shirt I choose. Boys just don’t get it.
Post # 7
@goldfish2308: Is it possible to get in contact with all the guys yourself and just ask them what it is they are wearing, or what options they have available to them. They would probably prefer hearing from you before they show up mismatched from the rest of the group.
Post # 8
Okay, I would be pissed.
These guys are in your wedding party, so of course they should match to some degree. I’m shocked that you FI doesn’t seem to understand the importance of that.. It would be different if you were trying to micromanage the attire of random guests.
Can you call all of the groomsmen yourself and tell them what to wear? (Like what tie color).
If they don’t have that color tie, could you go out today & buy each guy a tie that matched?
Post # 9
@goldfish2308: They are in the Groom’s party, and adult men dress ourselves. Dark suits are actually a better choice, as black is for funerals, or for business if you happen to like them, so that is a happy accident, even if it happened because your FI didn’t communicate/listen. Nothing you can do about the ties at this point, so no point worrying. In 10 years, ths will be a funny story, stressful as it is right now.