Conflict – groomsmen attire

posted 3 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
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7410 posts
Busy Beekeeper

I think it is important to remember that it is your FI’s wedding too and if he doesn;t care what his groomsmen where then that shoudl be ok.

I think you need to just let the cake thing go. You have choosen to accept a free cake and I guess that means giving up control on what it looks like. Does it really matter? it is just going to get eaten and be pooped out.

Focus on the important things. You are marrying the person you love and will be surrounded by friends and family that love and support you. At the end of the day what more could you ask for.

Post # 4
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830 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@goldfish2308:  Eh, it’s too late to worry about now. No point in wasting your energy. And in the words of a Bee, spotted on another thread:

“Boys are dressed by their mothers. Men dress themselves.”

You just worry about your girls; let HIM worry about the guys. It’s his day too.

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

To be more accurate, they are in the wedding party. They are not in the bridal party.

They are groomsmen- meaning, they attend the groom.

Too late to be worrying about this. If it was that important to you, it’s too bad you and FI didn’t talk about the ties, or shop for and gift them to the groomsmen earlier.

Post # 6
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975 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Banff, Alberta

My FH was a little confused about controlling birdal wear too. “You expect them to wear the same suit?!” Um ya. But okay I let that one slide they can all wear black suits. But they HAVE to wear the exact same tie and shirt I choose. Boys just don’t get it. 

Post # 7
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525 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@goldfish2308:  Is it possible to get in contact with all the guys yourself and just ask them what it is they are wearing, or what options they have available to them. They would probably prefer hearing from you before they show up mismatched from the rest of the group.

Post # 8
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3442 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Okay, I would be pissed.

These guys are in your wedding party, so of course they should match to some degree. I’m shocked that you FI doesn’t seem to understand the importance of that.. It would be different if you were trying to micromanage the attire of random guests.

Can you call all of the groomsmen yourself and tell them what to wear? (Like what tie color).

If they don’t have that color tie, could you go out today & buy each guy a tie that matched?

Post # 9
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3249 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@goldfish2308:  They are in the Groom’s party, and adult men dress ourselves.  Dark suits are actually a better choice, as black is for funerals, or for business if you happen to like them, so that is a happy accident, even if it happened because your FI didn’t communicate/listen.  Nothing you can do about the ties at this point, so no point worrying.  In 10 years, ths will be a funny story, stressful as it is right now.

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