Conflict of Interest: Bridesmaid and Groomsmen.

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@bananacar:  have her in the wedding but just don’t ‘pair’ them together. 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@bananacar:  better yet, pair her with a cute elligible bachelor if there are any in the wedding party 😉

Post # 6
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Newbee

@bananacar:  You can’t not have your best friend in your wedding party! 🙂 Like someone else said, have her as a bridesmaid but just don’t have them walk in together at the reception if you’re doing that.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

aw I feel bad for her… I’ve been with FI for 5.5 years and I can’t imagine what that would feel like… Especially if he’s moved on so easily.  If I were her I’d have a very very hard time being around him.

However if you want her in your party I wouldn’t let this stop you.  But I would talk with her about your concerns first and then maybe let her decide if she’d be comfortable being there.  Especially if he’s going to bring the new gf.  And who knows, maybe by the time your wedding rolls around she’ll have a new man too

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

As long as they’re cool I think it would be fine.

I’m confused though, you say it’s been 5 years and then later say 5 months. Which is it?

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee

I knew a girl who had her brother’s ex girlfriend in the wedding. They remained close after the break up, and considered each other to be best friends more than “that’s my brother’s ex girlfriend.” If that’s how it is for you have her in the party for sure!

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I would think long and hard if you think this friendship will continue. It seems like this is a fresh breakup. And as they are no longer together distance might grow between you. And you could feel weird having her in the wedding and putting fbil in an uncomfortable position. 

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