- 7 years ago
- Wedding: August 2011
ok my sisters (A) getting married. Her Maid/Matron of Honor is my oldest sister (S) who lives 12 hrs away from the rest of us. Well–“S” is a big drinker. She likes to have fun. She’s got the “adult” humor if you will & is wanting to throw a bachelorette party for “A” that reflects her personality. “S” is wanting to have the party the day before the wedding bc she’s flying in the day before & leaving the day after (not much time for a Maid/Matron of Honor, but w/e.) “S” was thinking we could go to dinner–drink, play games, bar hop, karaoke, hit the clubs, w/e. Well I know “A” a little better than “S” does, I guess, bc I know “A” would hate that. She doesn’t drink often, go out, or appreciate that “adult” humor. Soo I suggested that we could go to dinner & then come back to the house & have a girls night with mani/pedis, facials, tweezing, etc. & watch movies & play games. I got “S” to agree to that bc going out to dinner she could still drink (we cant drink at the house. cop next door & “S” likes to get loud) well, problem is the rehearsal dinner is the night before the wedding—so we’ll of already had dinner. So now “S” is super bummed bc there goes her drinking & is saying now she’s not going to throw a bachelorette party or a bridal party & is thinking about just flying in the day of the wedding instead of the day before & leaving after the wedding…
I don’t know what to do? I’m a little worried that S’s drinking problem may be a little out of hand if she’s that disappointed that she won’t be able to drink. i suggested that we go somewhere for dessert & she could still drink, but she’s found out that “A” doesn’t want to get plastered before her wedding like she, “S”, was originally thinking. So I mean what am I supposed to do? Am I suppose to just take over & plan the bridal shower & bachelorette party? & what am I suppose to say to “S”? like umm…I’m worried you’re drinking is out of hand? or should I just not say anything & just plan the party? Idk what to do? I know that if “A” doesn’t get her parties she’ll have a cow. but I’m a Bridesmaid or Best Man & “A” is threating to kick me out of the wedding…so Im feeling a little resentful & don’t know if I really want to if “A” is gonna be spiteful like that. I guess I should be the bigger person & just throw it anyway.
so I guess my overall questions are–should I take over in organizing the Bachelorette party even tho I’m just a BM? (bc I dont know if “S” is really serious or not & I don’t want to pry & get her upset, she’s a little touchy)…if I do take over & organize it, what could we possibly do to make everyone happy? & should I talk to “S” about her drinking or mind my own business? I realize wanting to drink doesn’t make it a problem—it goes quite a bit deeper than that. Its “A” not wanting “S” to drink/be drunk/hungover at her wedding & “S” isn’t sure she can/wants to do that…idk? ideas?