conflicted about decor/theme

posted 3 years ago in Decor
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I don’t see anything wrong with having huge, dramatic, colorful centerpieces! I think the bright colors would be stunnning next to a summer, beach wedding!

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@Panda13:  I feel you about a love for all things Indian! A good rule of thumb for cultural appropriation (thank you for being so thoughtful) is that it’s appropriation when you are using another’s culture to take and it’s appreciation when there’s an aspect of giving. Example: Wearing Native American headress as fashion during the Victoria’s Secret fashion show= appropriation. Victoria’s Secret was taking something from another culture for their own profit and giving nothing in return. On the other hand, having Native American’s represented in the fashion show (designers, models, etc) and asking them to express their culture in traditional dress= appreciation. It would include them and GIVE them the oppoortunity to showcase their culture.

Since neither you nor your fiance are Indian it might not be appropriate to wear a bindi or have your bridesmaids in saris (though I don’t get the idea that’s what you wanted to do), but there are ways to show your appreciation for a culture through inspiration instead of completely mimicking them. Using rich colors and/or draping would be a beautiful idea that can incorporate some of what you love about India without being offensive. 

I thought this looked like a beautiful idea for a wedding on a beach without a beach theme(sorry for such a big picture!):

But I would use birdcaged or something instead:

But I think it should come more easily once you lock in a theme. I’m in the same boat. Wedding in the woods but I want to incorporate some elegance instead of rustic. Good luck!

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Panda13:  As the pp has said, there are ways to do this respectfully. I suggest picking out your colors first.

Are you aware of the websites http://www.theperfectpalette.com and http://www.design-seeds.com?

On perfect palette you can scroll down on the right, click on a color you love and see all the palettes  they have developed using that color.

On design seeds you can search by theme or play around with the search by color value tool till you get a color you love then see the palettes

plated hues

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Panda13:  Me either. When you do decide on a palette, go to the paint store or Home Depot etc and get paint chips in those colors to carry with you. It makes it so much easier to know if something is the right color.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Go for it! We had a Faraway Lands theme and incorporated a lot of Indian and Moroccan elements.  My invitations and programs had Eastern designs,  I had Moroccan overlays, and lots of burgundy,  gold,  orange,  and blue. I got one of the Moroccan lanterns for the altar.  Find different ways to include eastern patterns and design elements. 

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