- 8 years ago
- Wedding: October 2010
I am conflicted about what I want to do for my ceremony.
I was raised Catholic (I’ve been baptized, done my first communion and confirmation)..so has my fiance. Yes, we believe in most of the Catholic teachings, but no, we do not attend church.
I feel it would be lovely to have a wedding in a church. However, I just have this beautiful vision of doing it outdoors. Our wedding will be intimate.. probably 20 – 30 people at most, and I just feel like we would get lost inside a church wedding.
On the other hand, if we do it outside, I could make the space personal, it would be whatever we wanted it to be.
I realize the choice may sound easy. My parents, being Hispanic, naturally expect that a wedding is not a wedding unless its in a church (unless of course it is not your first marriage, then it is ok to do a JOP wedding).
When I first talked to my mom with ideas, I mentioned the outdoor thing, and her response was “Oh, you’re not gonna get married in a church?” At that point I was thinking of having a bigger wedding, and she’s like, “if you’re going to be inviting a lot of family and stuff, you should have it in a church…you don’t want people traveling to your wedding if you’re just going to do something simple outside”
That makes me mad! So a wedding outside of the church doesnt’ count to her???
I’m the type of person that cares about what everyone else thinks, so I’m trying to think positive about this church thing, but honestly, I just want a pretty outdoors wedding. My fiance is the same way. I dont’ knwo what to do?
Any other Hispanic Catholics whose parents strongly wanted their son/daughter to get married in a church, but chose to do something else?