Post # 1
Would it be bad if I don’t invite my dad to the wedding? I told him and my step mom about it the wedding already. My dad was happy, my step mom is criticizing everything. My Fiance and I are paying for everything. My dad hasn’t offered any help. Step mom is saying a wedding is not a wedding if it is not very formal, cupcakes are stupid and a pearl bead bouquet is an outrageous idea. I am not a flower person at all so this is what I want.
She is also saying that she isn’t happy for us and that Fiance is not a good provider ect. My step brothers are white trash low lives. One lost custody of both kids (step mom and my dad adopted them). My Fiance isn’t a drunk or drug addict. He’s a marine and auto mechanic and makes a nice amount of money. She thinks it is not enough because she pulls in over $50k a year. Difference is he is 25 and a hands on type of guy and she is 62. My dad doesn’t stand up to her since she makes the money in the house and agrees with her on things. Ugh I don’t know what to do.
Post # 3
Invite your dad and ignore her. Don’t let her keep your father from your day. Invite her too, but ignore her and don’t let her get to you.
Post # 4
Picture yourself with a white veil that covers you head to toe.
Nothing can penetrate the veil- even your stepmother`s mean-spirited remarks.
I think you should invite them. If you don`t, you will never be able to undo the damage.
Post # 5
Unfortunately sometimes people prefer to criticize, rather than find the joy in each occassion. I agree with @armychica06. Invite them anyway, avoid contact with step-mom whenever possible. And, ignore her ‘suggestions’.
Mazel tov on your upcomig nuptials!
Post # 6
seems the problem is your SM not your dad – tell her to STFU and close down all information lines with her, if you dont over share with her then she cant bitch about it. you are an adult, time to put less value in what SM is saying, people are always going to have their own opinions, you dont have to give them any attention.
Post # 7
Can you ask your dad to talk to her and mention that her comments are getting more and more hurtful? Do you have a good relationship with her outside of wedding related issues? I wouldn’t not invite your father because of comments your step mom made. Why punish him for thinge he didn’t do or say?
Post # 9
Thanks ladies. Thing is my dad and I aren;t close since he adopted my step nephew and neice. He does more for them then his own blood grandchildren. Even though him and my mom were divorced and would fight all the time he didn’t want to go to her funeral and he there for me and my brother as support.
If I talked to my dad about my step mom he would go on her side. She is money hungry and controlling. She will still make comments at the wedding to other people. She likes to show off her money and make it like she is extremely rich when in a way she is not. It is hard since 99% of my family is in NY and are all my mom’s side of the family. My only family in FL is my dad and brother. My brother suggested to not invite them since we weren’t invited to their wedding even though my step brothers were invited.
Post # 10
I would send an invite to your dad. Addressed only to your dad. If he RSVPs that your step bros and step mom plan on being there tell him you do not have the space for them and let him know since she didn’t seem to pleased you didn’t think she would mind staying home from the event.