- inlovewith him
- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2011
okk.. soo i need some advice.. ive been dating FI since we were kids – it has now been about 13 years. During this time we obviously grew up together and made many mistakes together. Some of these mistakes led us down the wrong road and FI winded up in jail for a few years. i didnt know what i wanted i had many of my own problems to sort out. i did date a bit, there was one guy who i had a fling with (lets call him Rich), he was from a few towns over. But it didnt last. FI has been home for years now.. he is clean, working, and doing well – completely turned his life around thankfully. well FI knows the name of this guy bc i really had nothing to hide
well my cousin who im super close with started dating this guy from the same town as Rich. hmmm what do you know but i kinda knew cousins bf bc he was in the same circle as Rich. Cousin’s BF and my FI have become good friends. It has now been almost 2 yrs and Rich had not really ever hung out with them. Well that started to change, Rich moved in with Cousins BF’s good friend and now i dont know what to do, as i type this out i know i jus need to FYI this to bf because everyone Cousin’s BF is friends with knows i had this fling and FI has not made the connection with the name yet… ughhh sound sooo stupid but FI is not the best with handling situations and ive cleary avoided this one for a while but its not going away. We were broken up while all this happened, i didnt cheat. but the only time we will run the risk of being in the same room with Rich is when we are out on a wknd and when it usually involves drinking…. and even tho FI is clean, he’s been working on attempting to stay sober – he cant handle his drinks and is hot headed and violent on occasion. what do i do? never go out? tell him? i just dont want drama for no reason. and if i dont tell him and he makes the connection on his own he is going to be upset. what to do???