- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
So I been engaged for a year, my fiancé and I have a son who is one year old. We been living together for about 2 years. Since we moved out everyone wanted us to get married… so we chose a date about 5 months ago… Aug 24 of this year. Everything was good until.. his sister got engaged… 2 months ago..she is getting married in 6 months and that’s when the nightmare started since then all the talk whenever we see his parents is about her wedding.. they never ask about us and if they do ask anything is bcuz my fiancé brings the topic up.
My fiancé and I are of different cultures and religions but We are getting married in a civil ceremony and having a small reception of 40 ppl that we both chose since we wanted the closest people to us to be there plus is not that expensive but his parents are a bit distant with our wedding. My fiancé ask his dad if he could help with some money he said only with a 1,000 since he has to pay around 50,000 for his daugthers wedding which is gonna be held in their country of origin so We were like ok that’s fine (eventho it hurt my fiancé a bit).
So we were fine with everything until yesterday we go over to his parents house and the first thing they tell us is about her wedding not even a hi or nothing… Then they tell us that they are having all this parties for her, that her aunt is having her bridal shower her friends are doing this and a million other things. Him and I just looked at each other and we were shocked… Not that she is getting all that but to the fact that neither his friends nor my friends are doing nothing for us…. we are planning our own bachelor and bachelorette party, no one is throwing parties for us?? no one is throwing a bridal shower….. After we left we talked about it made me so sad that I cried… I actually felt a little jealous of her(I couldn’t believe that I was feeling that and after I felt even worse for having that feeling) and right now I am so sad that i dunn wanna even get married… I know this has to do with the fact that we are not getting married the way his family gets married… but is just horrible to know that our wedding is overshadow by hers and that we don’t matter at all….
This is the worst feeling…. I feel sad that I can’t even enjoy all the planning because it seems that nothing matters to his family… is really frustrating
Has anyone been thru this before???