Post # 1
so me and my boyfriend have been together for over a year. we moved really fast started living together after 4 months of dating! I have a daughter thats 4 years old and let him meet her until was sure we were for real. Her dad isant there for her soo i have been looking for the real deal this time want to have a broken home. I was young when had her 18 and in love with her dad! I am now 24 years old and have been looking for the one for about 2 years because I feel I’m ready for all that comes along with marrage I just need that special person to do t with which is that hardest part finding him. He is soo good to me takes care of me and my daughter! can seriously say the best man that I have ever been with in my life. he is 26 years old but acts very mature more like his mid 30’s he says he wants to get married. he has taken me to numerous jewlery stores and has been saving for my ring. So i was getting some jewlery for my mom and stumbled across my dream ring it just poped to me stood out like a sore thumb. so told him about it and after work was going to ake him to see it but he seem to me that he really did nt want to go look at it and it really hurt my feeling then he went and said well be getting you that ring anyways cause he dosnet want me to know what getting and get that but just want something that like maybe um ungrateful but see it like that have to wear it letting him pick his out and he can hold on to it as long as he wants so its a surprise duno just feel like double guessing it?
Post # 3
@confused123: Okay…this was very hard to read but it sounds to me like he wants your ring, when it comes time to proposing, to be a surprise (or he has already bought or picked something out and is a bit worried now that you have picked something out you like AND won’t like what he has picked out/designed or already bought). Some men (and women) are just more traditional that way and prefer the ring to be picked out exclusively by the proposer. Despite what WB and some other sites may have you think, not ALL women (or men) pick out their own rings, and the women who HAVE picked out their rings have usually discussed it with their partner and chosen a ring before a proposal or after.
Since he has taken you to stores I am guessing he has an idea of what you like and is going for something similar to what you have expressed you like.
Now, the whole ring thing to me is totally independent of whether or not he wants to get married. I would kindly suggest that if you are going to get married you should be able to certainly TALK about marriage, though nothing in your post indicates to me he does not want to get married?
Do you not believe him that he is saving for a ring?
Post # 4
@RayKay: Agree with everything you said.
To the original poster, I know that sometimes it’s ok to move fast, but just be careful. Make sure this is what you really want and that you know your boyfriend really well. I hope you’ve discussed topics like parenting, religion, money, etc.
It’s great that he loves your daughter… but make sure you talk about whether you want more kids, if you’re both wanting to stay in the area you currently live, college savings, etc. There are so many things that go along w. having a child already.
Congrats, though – it sounds like you found a really nice guy 🙂
Post # 5
Sopunds like either: A. he already has the ring and needed a way to not have you suddenly expecting that new ring you saw.
B. He doesn’t want to marry you, ever.