Post # 1
I grew up going to church my entire life and still go quite regularly. Growing up everything pretty much revolved around church. We went like three or four times a week. At seven I made a profession of faith during VBS and was baptized shortly there after. I stayed involved in church and this continued all through high school.
After graduation I attended a Christian college affiliated with my denomination. It ended up being a horrible experience and I lasted a year. It was the first event that left me questioning my faith. I transferred to the local university and I have a year left. A lot of my professors have presented ideas that seem to have merit as well. The bottom line is I’m not sure about the decision I made at seven. I want to believe it was real and that I didn’t go down because everyone else did. I’m honestly not totally sure.
I was talking to a close friend about this and she points out that it probably goes back to the fact that my boyfriend and I have sex. She says sin can create doubts and such. I’m not so sure because the first time I had these feelings I was a freshman at the Christian college. I wasn’t making any choices that really strongly go against the faith.
Has anyone ever experienced this? Is it just a passing phase?
Post # 2
I think you just have a broader world view now that you are older and wiser. Faith can evolve, and it has nothing to do with “sin” or whatnot.
Post # 3
I grew up the same way you did. Very involved in the church. Then after seeing the corruption and judgement that happened in 3 different churches, I gave up in my belief of organized religion. I still believe in God, but my belief in the “man of the cloth” has diminished greatly. I agree with the other pp about having a broader view than your friend. And there is nothing wrong with that.
Post # 4
I very much believe in God, but not religion.
If you and your boyfriend feel the need to express your love for each other through sex it doesn’t mean you love God less nor does it mean you have sinned.
Maybe you need to ask yourself if your belief in God or your religion has diminished. You can have God without the religion. But if you find that your belief in God is failing too, it doesn’t make you a bad person or a sinner, it will make you…. well, you!
Post # 5
Kacey23: I grew up in the church and I’m still a believer today. I went to very secular, liberal schools and I work in very secular, liberal environments. Your faith being challenged is a part of life, if you go through life without ever questioning your faith, that isn’t healthy either.
You are supposed to explore the world, be exposed to all kinds of ideas, and then make your own – very own – personal decision. I don’t think it’s because you are having sex, though sinning can make you think about your faith more actively. Faith is a continuous act – it doesn’t mean that whatever you did at age 7 is forever binding. You still have to wake up every morning and make a decision on your walk. I would recommend that you go to the Bible for the answers you seek.
Post # 6
Thank you for your replies! Some interesting thoughts to say the least.
Post # 7
A seven year olds faith is very different from a teenagers, a young adult, a 30 year old etc.
Like you, I grew up in the church and I am fairly sure I made some sort or commitment (personal not public) when I was a young child but I don’t remember it so I don’t use it to say that is when I became a Christian. Instead, I say that it was when I was 14 because it was then that I knew I was choosing my faith for myself, and not because my parents took me to church. I didn’t have to commit my life to God, but I did. I got baptised and became a member of my church (baptist).
As a child your perspective on things is usually very black and white but as you get older your perception changes and things become slightly more blurred. There are actions which are obviously sins – murder, stealing, violence etc. But then there are some actions which can be seen as a sin by some but not by others – drinking, smoking, swearing etc.
As you get older you need to decide what’s what and if something is a sin or not….at the end of the day it’s going to be God judging you, so that is between you and Him.
I think we all go through stages where we are far from God, I know I do…and things happen that make us question what we ultimately believe but, as long as the fundamental belief is there (Jesus died on the cross for our sins, rose again and sent his Holy Spirit) then the details don’t really matter as much. All denominations believe slightly different things, but does it make them any less Christian? And within those denominations will be different beliefs at a personal level, doesn’t make them any less Christian. I would be amazed if you found two Christians who had the exact same thoughts on faith and sin (even the tiny ones).
Spend time praying and go to church and just listen to God.
Post # 8
Kacey23: you know sometimes we are faced with different situations that may make us question our faith. I know for me personally if I ever feel my faith may be wavering or I may be questioning something i continue to persevere in prayer as well as research, do deeper study on the matters in question.(Acts 17:11) You need to identify what you are questioning an ask for Gods Holy Spirit to guide you while to study his word to see if the things you are questioning are Biblically accurate and when you keep proving these things to your self you will keep strengthening your faith in God.(2 Cor 13:5)
It can be just a passing phase as long as you do the work with God to find out the problem. If not it gives place for satan to feed that sense of doubt and could harm your spirituality. But with a willing heart and trust in God anything is possible! And he will bless your efforts.
Some have told me before that we should never question or ask questions, we just need to believe. I have not personally found that to be true, I have not seen in the Bible that we need to blindly follow but that we build faith, it’s not something that doesn’t have proof behind it . Actually God’s word says in Proverbs 2:1-5: My son, if you accept my sayings And treasure up my commandments, 2 By making your ear attentive to wisdom And inclining your heart to discernment; 3 Moreover, if you call out for understanding And raise your voice for discernment; 4 If you keep seeking for it as for silver, And you keep searching for it as for hidden treasures; 5 Then you will understand the fear of Jehovah, And you will find the knowledge of God.
Post # 9
I think faith evolves as people grow. Faith wouldnt be what it is without doubts! It’s perfectly fine to doubt and have questions. The seeking out answers is what allows your faith to grow so that it isnt stagnant.
Post # 10
Many were called and used by God at even a younger age and had a powerful relationship and served Him all of the days of their lives. My son gave his heart to the Lord at 5 yrs old he begged me to pray with him after the a week of seeking the Lord I prayed with Him and he accepted the Lord Jesus as His personal Savior
My question for you was it is it still personal? There’s no taking it back ( smiling ) and our God has promised to never leave you nor forget you but you may have turned your back on your faith but He has not turned His back on you!
There is no way of coming to God but by Jesus Christ. Sin blocks our relationship and kills the way for the unbeliever. The Bible tells us there’s a way that seems right but it ends leas to death … there is only one way you chose it as a child go back to your first love. :0)