Post # 1
I am trying to decide about a dress that I have tried on and I need some opinions. I thought I loved this dress in the store because it is a beautiful dress, I loved the lace, and would fit my wedding perfectly. Getting married deep in the woods and then going to a nice restaurant for dinner. That is, I loved it until I saw the pictures of me wearing it. I have quite the list of alterations that I would want to do to the dress which is making me uneasy about whether it is the right dress for me. Right now the dress has cap sleeves which I would want to make more like straps (they have been folded in some of the pictures to get the idea of thickness but I would want to keep the organic edge of the lace). I would want to make the skirt more of a trumpet taking it in at the hips. The whole dress would need to be shortened and I would also be removing the train. The train is just too much for our ceremony location is pretty rugged and the train will just be dangerous. I’m also a no fuss no muss kinda girl. Should I go for it or keep looking?
Post # 3
@S0InL0v3: Can I be honest and say maybe this isn’t your dress? It is very pretty but based on all the alterations you would need to make, maybe you should find a dress that fits what you would like more. Maybe something more whimsical and flowy?
ETA I’m also super jealous of your wedding idea! I would have loved to have our ceremony deep in the forest and go to a nice restaurant for dinner.
Post # 4
@S0InL0v3: That sounds like a lot of alterations and that tells me this just isn’t the dress for you. Have you tried on anything else that is more similar to what you are envisioning with the alterations? There are so many pretty lace dresses I am sure you would be able to find one that you love just the way it is or with minimal alterations.
Post # 5
Unless that dress is a $200 sample, I would keep looking. All those alterations are going to cost a FORTUNE!
Post # 6
I think the dress is very flattering on you, and the alterations seem reasonable (and not more than what I see many other ladies do to their dresses). I wouldn’t go over budget for a dress that needs a significant amount of work, but if it’s within your budget comfort zone, I’d say go for it.
Post # 7
Oh my gosh. I LOVE, LOVE this dress — exactly as it is! It looks amazing on you!
I wouldn’t worry about the rough terrain. If you bustle the dress for your ceremony, you won’t have to worry about it, and you still can have pics taken with the train showing.
As for the cap sleeves, I am going to be honest, I think they are PERFECT with this dress. They create an extremely flattering, visual line that results in balancing the top, mid-section, and bottom of the dress perfectly.
I truly would not make any of those alterations.
Post # 8
I think you should keep looking. Just because you continue to look doesn’t mean you cannot go back to that dress. It is very common to go shopping for a dress thinking you know exactly what you want and then finding something completely different. The dress I ended up getting was completely different from anything I thought I wanted.
Post # 9
I think the dress is amazing on you, I firmly believe there is a dress for everyone, you shouldn’t have to make a million allterations on a dress, you should fall in love with one!
Post # 10
Honestly, I would keep looking. The dress is pretty, but it’s not doing much for your figure (which is amazing!)
Post # 11
@S0InL0v3: I am in the minority so far, but I LOVE that dress and think you look gorgeous! I wouldn’t change anything. You look fantastic.
Post # 12
@S0InL0v3: I think the dress is stunning and looks amazing on you but I too am of the mindset, if it needs this taken off or that added or it would be perfect only if it had … then it’s not the dress. Check out some designs on essensedesigns.com or what about JH8800 – by jim hjelm? Keep looking before you settle for this dress with alternations! Plus dress shopping is lots of fun!
Post # 13
I think it looks amazing as is, gorgeous
Post # 14
@StephieBee: Yep, that is what I thought. Thanks for your honesty. I love the dress just not on me.
Post # 15
@S0InL0v3: I don’t know your budget, but look up Sassi Holford, Mia.
Post # 16
I think if you have to completely redesign a dress, it isn’t the right dress. I see that all the time on here. I could see changing a neckline or maybe adding sleeves, but I see brides wanting to completely change the structure of a gown. They would be better served buying a gown in the style they really want.